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About elopements

8 replies

bridgetreilly · 01/07/2023 19:35

To think that if you have four bridesmaids, a wedding planner, and a televised dress shopping appointment then you are NOT eloping!

Elopements are secret weddings, not just destination weddings.

OP posts:
bibbityboppityboo · 01/07/2023 19:39

Meh, I'd say anything small and out of the way can be an elopement! Anything with more than maybe 20 people I'd just call an intimate wedding? Not sure there's rules on the dress purchasing or having a planner involved 😂

sparkellie · 01/07/2023 19:43

What part of that wedding makes it an elopement?

Mummyratbag · 01/07/2023 19:47

sparkellie · 01/07/2023 19:43

What part of that wedding makes it an elopement?

I'm guessing it's a small wedding and "elopement" is an excuse to explain why anyone who asks isn't invited?

Nanny0gg · 01/07/2023 20:02

elope

verb

  1. run away secretly in order to get married.
ThisWOMANWontWheesht · 01/07/2023 20:02

sparkellie · 01/07/2023 19:43

What part of that wedding makes it an elopement?

I thought it had to do with speed and secrecy: the couple run off together and generally do it alone with no friends and family and without much advance planning.
The weddings you describe are not what I'd call elopement, OP!

james356 · 08/07/2023 06:27

It's true that the term "elopement" traditionally referred to a secretive and spontaneous marriage ceremony, often without the knowledge of family and friends. However, the meaning of the word has evolved over time, and it is now used more broadly to encompass small, intimate weddings that deviate from the traditional large-scale celebrations.

In today's context, an elopement can still be considered an elopement even if it involves a few bridesmaids, a wedding planner, or even a televised dress shopping appointment. The focus of an elopement is more on the intimate nature of the ceremony rather than the number of attendees or the level of pre-wedding preparations.

Couples may choose to have a small gathering of loved ones and close friends, including a select number of bridesmaids, to witness their special day. Having a wedding planner can help with organizing and ensuring that everything runs smoothly, regardless of the size of the event. And while a televised dress shopping appointment may add an element of public exposure, it doesn't necessarily negate the intimate and personal nature of the wedding itself.

Ultimately, the definition of elopement has expanded to accommodate a range of preferences and circumstances. It's up to the couple to decide how they want to celebrate their love and commitment, whether that be through an intimate ceremony with a few close friends or a more elaborate affair. The most important thing is that the couple feels a deep connection and meaning in their wedding, regardless of the label attached to it.

Remember, weddings are a deeply personal choice, and each couple should define their celebration in a way that reflects their unique love story.

InstaGlam · 08/07/2023 06:33

Ours was an elopement. Decided to get married one day. No one knew except us. Got our license. Got married. No photos, no flowers, wore our regular clothes, no reception, just us, the officiant and 2 witnesses. Told everyone the next day. Even my mother didn’t know until the next day.

Nanny0gg · 08/07/2023 10:06

james356 · 08/07/2023 06:27

It's true that the term "elopement" traditionally referred to a secretive and spontaneous marriage ceremony, often without the knowledge of family and friends. However, the meaning of the word has evolved over time, and it is now used more broadly to encompass small, intimate weddings that deviate from the traditional large-scale celebrations.

In today's context, an elopement can still be considered an elopement even if it involves a few bridesmaids, a wedding planner, or even a televised dress shopping appointment. The focus of an elopement is more on the intimate nature of the ceremony rather than the number of attendees or the level of pre-wedding preparations.

Couples may choose to have a small gathering of loved ones and close friends, including a select number of bridesmaids, to witness their special day. Having a wedding planner can help with organizing and ensuring that everything runs smoothly, regardless of the size of the event. And while a televised dress shopping appointment may add an element of public exposure, it doesn't necessarily negate the intimate and personal nature of the wedding itself.

Ultimately, the definition of elopement has expanded to accommodate a range of preferences and circumstances. It's up to the couple to decide how they want to celebrate their love and commitment, whether that be through an intimate ceremony with a few close friends or a more elaborate affair. The most important thing is that the couple feels a deep connection and meaning in their wedding, regardless of the label attached to it.

Remember, weddings are a deeply personal choice, and each couple should define their celebration in a way that reflects their unique love story.

No, A definition is just that.

The fact the word is used incorrectly doesn't change its meaning till its happened over a long period of time.

I don't know anyone who uses 'elope' to mean a small, intimate wedding.

They're just 'weddings'

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