Are we being overly sensitive

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Ok so I'm in a bad way with my job, it's very toxic place.

I'm a manager and there was some inappropriate things said to a female member of staff. Basic sue was kneeling down and this guy said while your down on your knees love. She reported it too me so I contacts HR. The lady didn't want to take it further so it was dropped but this guy says inappropriate stuff numerous times.

I've been told by other members of staff he was saying stuff about me but I've brushed it off.

Long story short a member of staff came to me and she he was saying stuff about me and others that was out of order.

I rang HR for advice and they asked me to get statements.

At the time I wasn't really bothered about the stuff about me. But this guy has been suspended pending investigation.

Now the manager who did the statements said the things he's been saying is disgusting.

Now he has back tracked saying people can be a bit overly sensitive.

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What is the question? Of course making sexist sexual comments in a workplace isn’t okay.

Sorry I'm in a bit of a state.

Question was I wrong to report it because I'm being seen as overly sensitive

It’s never ok best off getting him out now! As a manager and he has form making highly inappropriate remarks it will be very tricky for you as a manager.

Every mortal remark he needs to be reprimanded on.

No sorry I'm the manager he is on of my team making comments about me and other females.

Sorry I'm in a right state over it my post makes no sense

Is the person who has back tracked the manager who took the statements, or the creep who's made the remarks?

You're not being over sensitive by the way. The "while you're down there" comment alone is not acceptable.

The manager who took the statements, he said HR in the investigation after said people are sensitive and take things the wrong way.

Not sure how you take 'while you're down there' the wrong way?

Stop doubting yourself - of course that's not acceptable - and find your anger that HR are minimising this bloke being a menace as everyone else's problem.
Was your manager in agreement with them?

It's not as if it's a one off & he learned, is it?

Hold your ground, yanb overly sensitive.

Ps, i know that self doubt. I'm in a similar process and countless times I've wondered if it was just me.

Thank you I feel like it's very much a man's world a lady came to me last week and slipped over hurt her self.

She had reported it to a male manger and he told her to man up. She came to me and I then reported the accident.

It's just this horrible culture that you can't feel emotion. I'm not like that I'm a good manger I'm kind look after people but also get the job done.

But I'm almost like an odd ball

Of course you were right to report him - if no one does he'll continue to think it's OK to treat female colleagues like that - well done.
I appreciate that it will be stressful while there's an investigation going on, but stick to your guns & take care of yourself.
Does your organisation have any form of employee assistance program?

Yeah we have the EAP scheme I didn't think of that even tho I recommend to others. Will seek some support from them thank you x

Remind that man that nobody says 'man up' anymore and give him a book on dinosaurs. If he doesn't want to become extinct, I'd advise him to take a course in communication.