Gaeilge

[Chickenkeev]

My husband hates my talking it, tbf he doesn't speak it but it is the natural language of my my family. It's not dissing him or slagging him off, it's more making an effort for them iyswim. And i sometimes listen to songs in the language and he takes it as an insult. I think tbh he's struck that he hasn't a clue. But i can't teach him, i'm not a teacher. But i know he feels it. Am rambling, sorry.

What the fuck does this mean?

Not for me. Its only a short hop and a jump from speaking it to following gaa.
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And that's not a lifestyle I'd want my kids involved in

That wasn’t what I was implying, but in hindsight I can see why you’d think it was 😂

There is a frequently drunken poster who posts late at night - often aggressively - who is known as “Kievs” (nickname; they once posted their husbands dick pics and then had to go to get their Kievs out the oven)

They are also Scottish hence my concerns about “Irish songs” and husband “hating it” 😳

What's his view on uisce?

I actually think that's fascininating personally. So much of Irish has transferred to English (and American english). The way language mutates and transfers. I really love it!

Soz, but you can check me and see i'm not a (particularly massive) weirdo. Just a common or garden weirdo. Saghas weirdo nagh ea 😂

If you want my credentials, i'm looking at take that on the LL and crying over tubs 🤣

I did check and your name predates the incident 😂

I have barely got a grasp of the English language so have no additional input. Hope you get more insightful answers than this!

Tbf no insightful stuff needed. I've done enough to have plentiful insight. I worked as a butcher, you'd be surprised what you learn. It's the one thing i want to teach my lg, before she goes to college, is to get a proper, public facing job. It is literally the best education you can ever receive (especiallly with turkeys at christmas!). That was a bit of a tangent there, soz!

Can't believe you checked my name tho, jaysus like 😂

I was so sure, and I really didn’t want to witness another unsolicited dick pic.

Im also a crazy bitch tho.

Ok, i must be utterly dopey, but dick pick? I thought they were just from dating apps?

Also, TalkingSchitst are you German? Tell me to eff off if you want,no bother, just nosey!

She posted her husbands (flaccid) dick.

Not German, no.

Schist as in the rock.

Ok so, everyone as you were. I'm going through a sneezing fit and handily there's a derry girls covid thing on. Handy out!

On MN? (I didn't think that was allowed?)

But inanyways, whatever shenanigans are going on, it's been a nice supportive thread (despite obvious collective devastation about Tubs 🤣)

It's a shame your husband reacts so badly to the language. My partner is dyslexic so he never learned much Irish in school but he doesn't mind me occasionally watching something as gaeilge ar an teilifís.

I do understand what you mean when you say you're not a teacher, my grammar is all instinctual now I tried to help a friend with something and told them it takes a séimhiú but I can't remember why which isn't much help for learning.

Tbf he feels horribly left out. My mam was from limerick and they made a point of leaving her out. So i feel it. But i do understand a bit of it. But my H wouldn't have a breeze tbf to him.

Also, by the by, he's dyslexic and i'm not a teacher 😂

Does he want to learn Irish given the situation he's in? You say he's absolutely allergic to it, but also that he feels left out.

So is he willing to give it another go or would he just prefer you not to speak it with your family? Yes I know, probably the latter, but being realistic and being fair to you too, what is he prepared to do? Also, by family do you mean you're speaking it with your parents and siblings or with your kids or both?
I can see he'd still feel left out even if you weren't using it in front of him, but also see how important Irish is to you.

I don't completely get why he doesn't want you listening to Irish songs, music is so personal, that does seem unfair to me.

I mean on the face of it the best thing would be for him to learn in a very supportive environment if that were possible and he felt he was willing and able to try. (Are there teahers or classes available nearby?) If not, then it's a difficult one and you're walking a tightrope really. Maybe see what other bilingual families do in similar situations if anyone on here can help with that.

I feel for him too. Schools could be brutal in the past, better today thank God, my DC love school. Their Irish is woeful but at least they're not scared.

If you're not speaking it to your family around him, he has no right to an opinion on it. It sounds like it's your family's first language and he doesn't get to tell you not to speak it.

But then, I grew up with a Welsh speaking parent - whenever we went to Wales to stay with their family, they'd sit around speaking Welsh and putting S4C on. I (and my brother) understand no Welsh, but it wouldn't have occurred to me to complain about their quiet enjoyment of their own language in their own home. I also wouldn't have leapt to the conclusion that I was the topic of conversation.

he needs to get over himself.

what you describe is a very controlling man who could learn a language but doesn't want to.
keep on speaking gaelge with your family. switch to english near him.

it's totally normal to speak 'your own' language within your family.