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Original poster

To think this is not the time for garden drinks?

30 replies

Summering23 · 29/06/2023 23:32

Neighbours of mine have about ten minutes or so decided to go and sit in their garden and talk loudly to each other. WTF?!

I’ve no idea if they are drunk or not but their voices are loud and at this time sound is really carrying. I’ve put earplugs in and can still hear them.

What the hell would make someone think this is a good time to socialise in their garden during the week?!

WIBU to open the window and shout at them to shut up?

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MrsSkylerWhite · 29/06/2023 23:34

I’m a miserable, anti-social old bat.
Yes, YANU.

Desiredeffect · 29/06/2023 23:34

I don't understand why people need to do this specially at this time of night. YANBU very selfish neighbours

MrsSkylerWhite · 29/06/2023 23:34

That should have said YABU!

Hawkins0001 · 29/06/2023 23:36

Omg where's your manners op

wildfirewonder · 29/06/2023 23:37

I think yabu for not understanding why someone would do this at 1130!

If they're usually quiet, let it go this time. If they are consistently noisy, then that's different.

I may not be the best person to comment as I am fairly good at ignoring noise.

Original poster
Summering23 · 29/06/2023 23:37

MrsSkylerWhite · 29/06/2023 23:34

I’m a miserable, anti-social old bat.
Yes, YANU.

I am, or you are?

I have work in the morning and my kids have school so yes I am a miserable old bat when it comes to people making noise and keeping me awake.

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Malarandras · 29/06/2023 23:39

You are definitely not unreasonable. But I wouldn’t open my window and shout at them, could just annoy them and make things worse.

Original poster
Summering23 · 29/06/2023 23:40

They are a very noisy family in general as there are tons of them living in the house, some even sleep in the garden room, but usually keep the outdoor noise to weekends.

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Fifiesta · 29/06/2023 23:41

Yup act now in a red mist & you will regret it. Speak to them tomorrow when you don’t still want to kill them…

Northernsouloldies · 29/06/2023 23:41

Feel for you, having inconsiderate neighbours is a pita. Had one any night could be party night not condusive with getting slept n going to work.

Original poster
Summering23 · 29/06/2023 23:41

Hawkins0001 · 29/06/2023 23:36

Omg where's your manners op

Probably left in the same place the neighbours left theirs when they decided 11.30pm on a weeknight was the perfect time for 5 of them to go and sit in the garden and have a lively conversation.

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MrsSkylerWhite · 29/06/2023 23:43

Summering23 · Today 23:37
MrsSkylerWhite · Today 23:34

I’m a miserable, anti-social old bat.
Yes, YANU.
I am, or you are?

I have work in the morning and my kids have school so yes I am a miserable old bat when it comes to people making noise and keeping me awake.”

I am. But still, YABU. I think until midnight is reasonable.

If you live in a town, that’s life. However irritating it is.

Blossomtoes · 29/06/2023 23:44

You don’t know you’re born - we’ve just had a load of fireworks go off.

mrsfollowill · 29/06/2023 23:45

Out of order on a Thursday- Fri/Sat maybe up til 12 is OK but if they are talking loud enough to disturb you through earplugs its really not OK.
I'd like to say I'd be brave enough to shout Oi! Marion and Jeff shut the fuck up some of us have work in the morning. Really- I would shout FFS and slam the window shut.
My mum had neighbours who let their dog out in the back garden every weekend -7am Sunday and fucked off back to bed (at the front of their house) until lunchtime. Probably woke up 10+ households with incessant barking- until one day a very loud voice boomed out of a window FFS shut that dog up and take it back inside you twats!! My mother was scandalised with that but very grateful!

bumblefeline · 29/06/2023 23:46

Shout out the window, I would but I have a short fuse. Anyone who makes any noise this time of night any day of the week is a twat.

Original poster
Summering23 · 29/06/2023 23:46

Ha! One of my neighbours posts on the local neighbourhood group to tell people to let their dog in when it’s barking annoys her!

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Thisismeyeah · 30/06/2023 00:02

I too would want to shout out the window, my red mist may take over if it was ongoing but an occasional problem let it go. It could be a whole lot worse if at 3am they play banging music every night.

Slam your window shut and hope for the best

Hawkins0001 · 30/06/2023 07:15

Summering23 · 29/06/2023 23:41

Probably left in the same place the neighbours left theirs when they decided 11.30pm on a weeknight was the perfect time for 5 of them to go and sit in the garden and have a lively conversation.

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My apologies I missed that part of it being that late.

TruthRevolution · 30/06/2023 07:21

One of my neighbours was out doing work in his garden with the radio blasting at 6.40am yesterday!!

Maddy70 · 30/06/2023 07:27

I live in Spain. Literally everyone is outside speaking loudly really late. I'm used to it now.

Agix · 30/06/2023 07:54

YANBU to be annoyed by it. I don't understand how people can be so loud when they are well aware other people are trying to rest/have work tomorrow/have kids sleeping/whatnot. Especially when their evening/enjoyment wouldn't exactly be ruined keeping a reasonable night-time volume.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think they are obligated to stay quieter at night (outside legal limits blah blah), and I am certainly too anxious to say something about it if I were in your shoes - I'd hope it was a one off, like a birthday gathering or something which is a heck of a lot more digestible - but I do wonder how no part of them thinks "Hey, it's pretty late, maybe us talking loudly is disturbing people around us - it's unecessary and not very kind of us, lets be a bit more thoughtful".

I'd hate to be a unecessary pain in the arse to the people around me. I suppose some people just don't care though.

Agix · 30/06/2023 07:55

Agix · 30/06/2023 07:54

YANBU to be annoyed by it. I don't understand how people can be so loud when they are well aware other people are trying to rest/have work tomorrow/have kids sleeping/whatnot. Especially when their evening/enjoyment wouldn't exactly be ruined keeping a reasonable night-time volume.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think they are obligated to stay quieter at night (outside legal limits blah blah), and I am certainly too anxious to say something about it if I were in your shoes - I'd hope it was a one off, like a birthday gathering or something which is a heck of a lot more digestible - but I do wonder how no part of them thinks "Hey, it's pretty late, maybe us talking loudly is disturbing people around us - it's unecessary and not very kind of us, lets be a bit more thoughtful".

I'd hate to be a unecessary pain in the arse to the people around me. I suppose some people just don't care though.

😂I missed the part where your question was "WIBU to open the window and tell them to shut up". I don't think you'd be unreasonable for it, but I wouldn't have the guts personally!

AnImmenseDislikeOfPeople · 30/06/2023 07:59

I personally find the slamming-the-window-shut method to be quite successful in stopping the neighbours from being loud, inconsiderate nobs.

useless1000 · 30/06/2023 10:35

Not everyone works Monday to Friday, so because you do they should not have drinks in the garden on a Thursday evening? I personally would try to quiet down after midnight but wouldn't bother about my neighbours talking, a live band maybe a different matter

Spanielsarepainless · 30/06/2023 10:47

Staying with relations recently, this happened to me. Neighbours outside having loud conversation about 11.30. I found talking loudly and excitedly with the dog in the garden at 5.45 the following morning to be extremely effective.