Name changed.
Objectively - should I keep trying to make my relationship work?
Together for over 5 years, 2 DC together then split up. Both moved into new homes and shared custody of DC amicably. Over the last year we have been working on it and recent months have been lovely in particular - spending lots of time together, very relaxed, family time, lots of intimacy.
However, he can be very hot and cold. When he becomes annoyed he closes off and it's difficult to tell if I've done something that's caused it (I have my faults!) Or if he genuinely is just tired or whatever.
There's more to it than this, although I don't want to drip feed. Last week he snapped at me for something trivial and the way he spoke made me so upset I was in tears, which is an issue we have had in the past and causes lots of friction.
Basically, I really want it to work. I've been working on myself because I want it to work so badly I've lost parts of myself in the past, which have caused resentment (his side).
BUT, can it work?! HOW can it work?!
YABU - stop trying
YANBU - it's possible (advice appreciated)