Many years ago something happened and I wonder to this day whether I am being unreasonable.
I was early 20s and went abroad for a year to study and work. It was all planned etc and I had booked my return flight back home very early on. I would arrive home after a year abroad about two weeks before my birthday. I was extremely proud of my achievement to get accepted into this programme (working class background, first in family to study, let alone live abroad etc.) and it was an absolutely massive deal for me.
Then at one point, and I cannot remember the timing, my brother and his now wife decided to get married. They had been together almost 10 years, childfree etc and other than personal preference I can't see why they had to get married on the day the did. So they got married on my birthday about two weeks after I returned from a year abroad.
I had said to my mother that I didn't like that, but was told to shut up and got a massive side eye. On the day, I felt my thunder was stolen from me, as everyone was all over the wedding, I didn't get a birthday and couldn't really talk about my experiences abroad.
I can now see it was slightly immature that I wanted to be centre of attention for going abroad, but I get it now even as a proper grown up - I never received recognition for anything, my parents weren't interested in what I was up to as long as I shut up and did not challenge anyone or anything. As a young adult I thought I might finally be enough, although I can now see how naive I was.
Anyway, it irks me to this day that their wedding anniversary is on my birthday. Was I and am I wrong for feeling like this?