So how do you get yourself out of a controlling relationship with a man that has BPD and bipolar? A man who can be very verbally nasty when things don't go his way, I have 2 children with this man and it's not always been this way, there was a time he was very cautious and respectful of me and my feelings and still there a short episodes when things feel peaceful. But 90% of the time he's down my throat about something. Today he told my sister if I ever went on a night out or wanted to have a drink (alcohol) he would leave me, because "he doesn't know me like that" we met when we was younger I have never been much of a party girl but because I wasn't in my teen years I feel like I'm on a lifelong ban if I want to stay with the farther of my children.. this is just one example of the manyyy endless list of things this man says. His family live 7 hours away and that's the only place he would go if we ever broke up. But no way in hell would he move that far from the children it would cause soo many problems