To think “when are you having kids?” is coming soon?

[Emptychairdoasolo]

I’m approaching 27 and I am expecting the questioning to start soon.

I have no interest in having children. In fact, I’ve spent the past 10 years of my life working looking after other people’s children in schools, nurseries and in their homes. I’m probably more prepared than the average person to understand and know what to expect. But regardless, I don’t want them myself. I’ve had 2 abortions in my adult life after failed contraception to further prove this.

but does it actually happen? Are people really so brazen as to ask when you’re planning on having children? Some people I know are surprised I still spend my weekends socialising in bars etc but why shouldn’t I if I am child free? AIBU to expect it now I’m going to be in my late 20s?

Nobody ever asked me.

Nobody ever asked me to be honest, and I did have one until I was in my late 30s.

Didn’t*

No one ever asked me. Ive never asked anyone.

I’m 28 and no one asks me

I made it to 37 without being asked. wouldn't have been bothered if anyone had though - it's an easy enough answer.

I doubt it at 27, unless you come from a community where younger motherhood is common. They might in your 30s I guess. Do you mean they’ll think you want them because you work with kids??

I found it was 'when are you two getting married then', then 'so whens a baby coming', then 'when are you going to give them a sibling'.

Most people I know arent complete nosey bastards so I've come to the conclusion its something people ask when they dont really know what to say

Yep there are definitely people who will ask as you approach your 30s and beyond. It's a personal question though so don't feel you have to answer. Hideous to think what someone might be going through (recent miscarriage, abortion, IVF, fertility struggles etc) yet people still think it's fine to ask something so invasive.

Colleagues and strangers asked and continue to ask me even now at nearly 40. A couple of friends and aunts too but I mind that less.

varied replies then, I have always heard it was a very common occurrence.

Im not too worried about it as I would have no issue telling people I don’t want kids. I’ve been asked a handful of times in the past but not often as I was still young. DP and I are planning on getting married just us within the next 12 months so I’m wondering if the questioning would happen more so after this.

I had it a few times from family, but only after getting married (at 31). It's so rude and intrusive. I shut them down with silly answers like "oh I don't know, maybe when I get bored of having lie-ins" or "I take it you're offering to babysit every weekend?" weirdly enough they didn't bring it up again...