Friend or not

[StrongTea22]

AIBU

We moved last year and due to the house being a massive state didn’t rush to invite people round.

Saw a school mum friend who I have seen a bit outside school (play dates) and got chatting and she was like ‘I’ll have to come for a coffee’

So I messaged her and invited her, asking when she was free…and she ignored it. Left on unread, no reply.

Saw her in passing and she looked embarrassed and said she doesn’t read her messages when working and she’d let me know.

At this point I feel like an idiot as she was acting like she didn’t want to speak to me and now I can’t bring myself to speak to her in passing.

She hasn’t tried to say hello either, I’ve basically met her attitude with the same energy as she’s given me but AIBU? An overreaction?

She could have any number of reasons for not replying and she has commented on a few social posts of mine which I have responded to briefly.

My feelings are hurt. I feel like she’s done a shitty thing and now I just cannot be bothered to make the effort. She’s lovely, really kind and a good laugh, It’s just made me feel shit by being ignored.

If you miss her as a friend, try once more but invite her face to face. She may have an excuse for before, she may not - but she might be acting this way now because she realises how it looks and she’s ashamed. But - if you want to - you can end it on your terms with one last invite.
It may lead to you picking up where you left off or she might give you the run around again but at least then you will know whether she’s just worth a casual “hi, how are you” or an invested friendship

Yeah that would be the nature thing to do wouldn’t it.

God I hate dealing with people like this, it really plays into my insecurities and paranoia.

Perhaps she has a ton of problems of her own and it's not even about you? She might be overwhelmed right now, it doesn't mean you did something wrong or that now's the tine to unfriend her or w/e

No perhaps this is true.

Equally, I just find it plain rude too, and being in the receiving end of it stinks.

Makes me feel like a sulky child and I’m aware of the irony of me…sulking about it 😆