Am I being unreasonable about this comment - TW for talk of weight

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I know I’m probably being a bit over dramatic as this is just a touchy subject for me, but would you find this malicious in any way?

I was just stood speaking to my mum about something totally unrelated and her husband was there (not involved in the conversation). He suddenly just says randomly, “God you’re going to be fatter than your mum soon”

For context (TW again for mention of weights), i weight 6 stone 13 pounds which is slightly underweight for being 5’1/2. I’ve struggled with eating disorders in the past which he is aware of at least to some degree. My mum has been on a diet recently and has lost a stone and is now 9 stone 3 and does look thinner. I think in the moment I thought he meant I have gotten fatter (I know I’ve not, I’ve lost a pound of anything) and was really angry.

On reflection he probably just meant my mum will be skinnier than me soon if she keeps losing weight in a jokey way but it just didn’t sound good. My mum even said to him don’t say that to her or she won’t eat now (I will). I just don’t think it was nice to say and sometimes I wonder if he’s trying to get at me

He's a dock.

Just ignore.

TW though?

Thank you - I will do, it just will play on my mind now because it’s a touchy subject and I get annoyed that I’m even that bothered!

Yes I’ve heard people who are struggling with an eating disorder can be triggered if they see the mention of weights especially if someone is underweight - or so I’ve heard before. Just didn’t want to be insensitive, I think it’s along the same lines as putting a TW when talking about calories

If he knows about your history of EDs, his comment was absolutely awful. Your mum's response to him wasn't the best either.

I'd put it totally and completely out of your mind if you can. Speak to BEAT or a therapist who can maybe help you with this.

Sounds to me like it was a clumsy, backhanded compliment to your mum on her weight loss.

Sometimes men are insecure when their wife or girlfriend loses weight.

It sounds like he wanted to have a dig at your mum rather than at you.

Because you're so obviously very slim, I'd assume he was trying to make a 'jokey' compliment to your mum about losing weight. Though doing it in a twattish way.

He sounds like a clueless idiot (generous) or a nasty bastard. I expect you know which.

I don't see how the comment could be seen as anything but deliberately trying to have a jibe at you, given it was random. Even your mum responded in a way that confirmed that and he didn't correct her that he was giving some weird reverse compliment.

How Long has he been in your mums life, does he know your history?

Hes an idiot. You are right though he probably meant you are very thin and he's trying to say your mum is now getting very thin and he never thought anyone could be thinner than you. Completely inappropriate comment to make though. He's obviously deeply thoughtless. Just distressing for both you and your mum. Why does he think anyone wants to know his thoughts on everyones weight? How rude.

I would just assume he meant that your Mum has got very thin. Don't overthink it.

"Fuck off, Bob. Don't ever mention my weight again, thank you very much."