Teachers Pet is a real thing

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We’ve all come across one right?

The kid that is overly helpful, overly complimentary, overly smiley and confident. The kid that is also mean and vile to other kids always out of ear shot of teachers. The teachers never seem to figure it out or be aware that these kids are manipulators and make other kids lives hell.

iabu never come across one
ynbu yes I’ve had the pleasure of one

Can't say AIBU or not, but I think you are wrong in that the teachers can pick these children out very easily.

There was one in my son's year at primary. I complained about him bullying my son and the teacher didn't believe me.

They went to different secondary schools and he was recently expelled for deliberately breaking a kid's arm. I do hope the year 6 teacher who was convinced the sun shone out of his arse knows.

I think most teachers can see this a mile off but some enjoy it. I'm an ex teacher and i hated this when I was at school so made sure I could never be accused of favouritism, infact many of my favourite kids were the 'characters', the little buggers with a twinkle in their eye! (Still no show of favouritism).

We now foster and when their school posts photos of their Yr groups i can normally give a couple of names who will be chosen . The kids may be lovely and a dream at school. but the parents have always been a bit in 'your face' with friendships with staff.

All the mean and violent kids I knew were rude and unhelpful to the teachers too.

I've always assumed that the "teacher's pet" is the one that gets picked on when adults aren't around.

In my experience they don’t see through it but I hope you’re right for the majority of teachers.

It’s so sad for kids that aren’t believed or listened too.

Yes, there are some bad teachers.

I think it’s a generalisation and untrue.

Teacher bashing in a different way.

There was definitely a teachers pet at my sons primary school. To be fair though he genuinely was a nice little boy, he was bright and generally well behaved. Then one of his parents started helping in school and it went crazy.

The favouritism however, throughout the entire time at the school was quite incredible. I'm sure I started a thread about it years ago and a few people didn't believe me the things that went on.

Teacher's pet, sure.

Teacher's pet who's a nightmare and a bully, less often although I'm sure it happens. When I was a kid, it was the goody two shoes who were the teacher's pets. They might have cheated on test scores but they wouldn't have hurt people.

I don't know! I was definitely a permanent teacher's pet throughout primary and secondary school, but I wasn't meant to other kids behind the teachers' backs. Most of the other girls who were popular with the teachers were just nice girls who did their homework and listened in class. I can't remember anyone fitting your description (although I'm sure they do occasionally exist, I don't think it's a thing).

Never encountered this. I always thought a ‘teacher’s pet’ was just a ‘goody two shoes’, and not also a bully.

How about the outright bully who gets away with it because his mum is so lovely works at the school she would never condone his behaviour its all so "shocking" 🤔 ok but sanctions for him? He is hurting children here ahh well I know we all want to spoil our children are you sure your child did nothing to "provoke" him. ...seriously he breathed that's not provocation 🙄 he was expelled in secondary also strangely in secondary they don't give a shit if your mom is nice smash a classroom you can fucking leave foot up arse optional mum wanted to complain that some "teacher" told him to fucking pack it in but the head replied is that REALLY your only issue? In such a tone

Yep a family friends little girl. She looked like butter wouldn't melt but with no adults around she was unpleasant. My mum believed me. Mutual friends who made a pet of her saw the light eventually.

Also a girl I was at seniors with. She gushed and bubbled and beamed. Except to a few of us who didn't fall for how wuvly she was. Absolute frosty cow bag.

Yes of yes this is so true!
Year 10 & 11 at one school the 'twitchy' science teacher had a lad in my class as his 'official' pet.
Kid could do no wrong. Teacher was inconsistent, threw tantrums, didn't mark coursework, lost things & blamed all the kids except that one.
Thankfully I transferred elsewhere when moved foster homes and my new school was better fit for my GCSES.

Years & years later find out that that science teacher was on the white powder and a relative of that lad often supplied him! 😳
Wtafh! 🤬

The kid in my primary school that was the favourite was not a bully or confident. I couldn’t understand why the teacher liked her so much when she didn’t finish her work quickly and was really quiet and a bit disheveled. Looking back she probably had something going on at home and the teacher quite rightly praised her and built her self esteem. I’m embarrassed that I was so unaware and selfish as a kid.

I’m glad there are people who haven’t had the pleasure of a Teachers Pet or whatever you want to call it.

What I will say is that the teachers who particularly favoured me also had kids that the blatantly didn't like and treated appallingly. 30 years on I still remember the treatment one girl had, and for no reason at all that I could see, she was a nice girl. As a kid I thought it was a bit unfair, as an adult I realise it was deeply unprofessional. We had that teacher for two years! I'd say there's a few out there carrying long-term scars from her treatment.

That’s not a teacher’s pet that’s a bully. I’ve never experienced this. The ones who are shitty to other children are shitty to adults too.

I’m not intentionally teacher bashing. I think these types of kids fool adults in many different settings. It just seems more obvious at school I guess.

I was called teacher’s pet all the time at school - it’s just because I tried hard and wasn’t a total arsehole.

This isn’t the type of child I’m talking about. I guess Teachers Pet has different meanings for different people.

I just pictured Randall from recess.

Yes there was one at my school. She was in the year above me at primary school (mixed class village school) and precocious as anything when it came to woke social issues (but shit at academic stuff) but as soon as we were sat at our table and the teacher was reading her novel at her desk, the barbs would come out. This girl orchestrated a really nasty bullying campaign against me involving all the girls in her year (there were none in my year) and when I tried to ignore her she went to the teacher and told her she was "concerned" that "in such a small school we should all get along" and "Biscuits isn't making an effort to get on with everyone else" and the teacher believed her and I was in trouble for trying to avoid a bully. Her mum was a governor as well. Literally the sun shone out of this child's arse.

Her sister (who she also bullied) was in the year below me and so I found out it all changed when she went to high school and she couldn't cope with how rough it was or how she couldn't be the big fish anymore and her mum ended up taking her out of that school and moving her to the school her dad taught at where she could presumably enjoy special treatment again.

I bumped into her again as an adult and she seems to be having a really nice life. Annoyingly.

They are real, but hopefully rare.

Unaware and selfish is your job as a kid. It's when adults do it that it's a problem.