Was I reasonable?

[Flowers94]

Basically I have recently had twins and they are a few months old, I’ve found it extremely isolating and I really find it hard to take them both out on my own.
this morning I have driven them to the local retail park to get some cleaning things for the house, their are no parent and child spaces at this retail park but plenty of disabled ones.
I have parked in a normal space and managed to get my babies and the double decker pram out. When I’ve come back there is a car parked diagonally at the side of my car so I was unable to get into my back door or get my pram round to the boot.
so I’ve had to climb into the car with my baby and reach her over the front seat into the car seat.
when I had eventually carried my pram basically over the roof of the car and got the babies in the people whose car it was came back.
i asked them nicely please could they be mindful how they park as they’ve blocked my back door of my car. I explained I had twins and needed both doors open.
he said to me his wife was disabled so they needed room at one side of the car so I said I appreciate that but their are disabled bays whereas their as no parent and child bays. So I left it at that, the wife has then started to scream at me saying you’d think I was the only person so ever have a baby, to get off my High how’re and fuck off.
it has really upset me and tbh I don’t think I’ll take them anywhere again by myself.
was I in the wrong?

No you weren't in the wrong. Obviously

Not sure why she started screaming at you..... without knowing your tone and attitude it's hard to say

People don't tend to react like that unless it's a reaction to something ...

I'm so sorry this happened to you OP, try not to take it personally and don't let it bother you - you did nothing wrong

It must be hard having 2, I know I struggled with just 1 - so good on you for getting out of the house

Don't let those people put you off either, as you'll probably benefit from going to some parent and baby groups if you can find some local to you 🙂

I was genuinely very nice, I’m not confrontational at all. Their reaction just seemed to unjustified and I’ve cried all the way home so I’m definitely not the type to start being arsey with people I don’t know

I know I have looked for a few groups but it just makes me so anxious, I can’t put into words how different having two is to one. I loved taking my first baby out and about we went everywhere but I can’t bring myself to do it with two and then encounters like this just make me feel like it’s not worth it because I’m upset now and that will effect the babies too x

Please don't let this out you off going out with your babies. I have twins and I know how hard it is. It's not their fault that woman was a cow. I really regret not having done more when mine were tiny. (And I promise you it gets easier.) I think you were incredibly polite in the circumstances. I'd have been tempted to ask her if she thought she was the only person ever to be in a wheelchair!

Don't let one incident put you off

How was the rest of the outing?

Don't let them ruin your day
They were horrible

It’s went well actually other than that incident, I had planned to get some lunch but after that I’ve just come home! I was just so shocked I’d never shout at someone in a car park especially not with two newborn babies x

You weren't unreasonable, they started shouting and screaming in an attempt to control the situation because they knew they were wrong.
Keep taking your babies out, you're doing nothing wrong.

Hard to judge without knowing your tone, she could well be mentally disabled and that's why she started screaming etc.

Don't think either of you was in the wrong.

Aw thankyou, I know I keep telling myself I’ll regret it I’ve just been trying to build it up to a couple of places a week even if it’s just the shop!
i keep thinking how long I’ve got left off work and I’ll be gutted when I go back that we haven’t done anything

The reason she shouted at you is because some people think attack is the best form of defence. She knows that they should not have blocked your car and used a disable space instead. Instead of admitting they were wrong she tried to make you feel bad.

You did nothing wrong and hopefully they will be more mindful when they next park.

Ignore the silly, rude people, they're nothing to you.

Take the babies out. I have triplets, now adults, and at baby groups there were always volunteers to help. It gets easier as they get a bit older and more interactive. Just wait until they start babbling to each other! When mine were around 12 months, they could have each other laughing their heads off. I used to love listening to them in the morning just before getting them up. Wish I'd recorded it.

Wow! Sounds very much like they were in the wrong. The must have been parked terribly if they blocked your door and boot!

You can’t let people like this put you off going out. These are rare instances. 9/10 it would have been no trouble getting in the car.

Rubbish!! Some people love a row!
Yanbu op ignore this.