Should I give him an ultimatum of sorts ?

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Seeing a man for the last month. We've had lovely dates. He seems genuine. I know friends/ cousins of his so know that he tells the truth.
He finished with his ex just before we met. It was for a series of reasons mainly though her insistence on keeping contact with exes, meeting them and boasting about inappropriate texts received from them.
He also was t ready for the level of commitment that she wanted and his children felt pushed out by her in their own home. I
Posted about that before wondering if I should give him a chance. I did and I'm happy I did and appreciated the responses .
However his ex is contacting him
Relentlessly. Looking for excuses to meet up, saying she needs to collect stuff, have stuff dropped etc. texts start positively and get progressively nasty . He doesn't respond he
Rally but has repeated that it's over , they need to Move on and sorry for hurt cause . She has left voice
Messages but again he doesn't respond .
I am getting kind of sick of this. He says he would feel awful blocking her when he has caused so much hurt and I can see why. I would be the exact same .
He is not encouraging it but he hasn't put a stop to it. Should I give him an ultimatum regarding a time limit on this. He feels she will tire of it eventually .

I'd just ignore it for now, sounds like he is over her. Any decision to block really needs to come from him.

Either he's over her, or he's not. Crazy behaviour from her is more likely to confirm his decision in his own mind!

Just watch out for any attempt by him to play you off against each other or use the inappropriate contact from her to stoke you to feel jealous. That would be a red flag.

You’ve only been dating a month and you want to start ultimatums?

He’ll think that he’s replaced one crazy with another.

…… ultimatums already?! This is doomed.

He’s far too soon out of his previous relationship. Why don’t you cool it for a bit with him, let them both get over their relationship, then try again if you’re both still interested?

I'd just tell him you're not interested in a relationship with somebody who's still entwined with his ex and to go and sort himself out and come back to you when he's emotionally available

It’s not up to you to dictate his communication or not with his ex. If you don’t like it a mere 4 weeks in then walk away.

Suggesting he won’t block her because of the hurt it would cause is obviously ridiculous, don’t entertain that.

Mainly, please remember that relationships are supposed to make you happy and life more fun and enjoyable and this one is bringing a lot of drama and angst already. You’ll only continue with it if you’re a glutton for punishment… Are you?

This! After a month!

Strange, both his exes were crazy?
You've been with him for a month, even if you went on three dates a week, you've still only seen him a handful of times. An ultimatum? How about deciding for yourself, concentrating on your own feelings, not the behaviour of two women you've never met and a man you hardly know, if this is what you want to see in a relationship of one month, or you think something feels off and you will bin it and find someone with less drama.

There is one ex.
I think I'll ignore this. I'm not up for drama tbh.