To find clapping at funerals a little odd?

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I was recently at a very very sad funeral of a young man whose sudden death was shocking and tragic. Everyone in shock and just an awful awful thing to happen. His family bravely spoke and even performed at the service. Each person got a round of applause. I was genuinely worried the coffin going behind the curtain was going to get a round of applause…
I found it very odd, but it’s been a long time since I attended a funeral so thought maybe it’s the done thing?
Then Lola in EastEnders had applause at her funeral too… so is this now a thing???

And am I being unreasonable to find it somewhat distasteful… and odd

Or is it maybe an appropriate way to show some kind of outpouring of support for the family?

I spoke at the funeral of a very close family member just days ago, and I led applause for the other speakers. I was also applauded. Kindly, I couldn't give a stuff if anyone else found it weird tbh.

I've been to quite a few funerals but never seen this clapping. I think I'd find it a bit surprising tbh.

I don’t see the problem. My friends said they desperately wanted to clap my eulogy for my dad as they loved it so much but no-one clapped. It would have been fine if they had

Exactly

I watched it on eastenders and found it strange too, but if other people have experienced it in real life then fair enough. I've only ever attended small funerals of people who were old and ill and whose deaths were expected so I guess that makes a difference to the atmosphere

I think that's it, really. I don't find it distasteful, no - grief does strange things to people and you do what you can to get through, most of the time. I don't think most dead people would mind, tbh.

Four funerals and no wedding I'm afraid. I'm over the hill and still a Miss!! (Missed the boat) Three children later 🙄, for which clapping is most certainly NOT appropriate

Just did eulogy at parent’s funeral. People clapped me. I felt weird about that. But I like to think it was my parent they were clapping. But it still felt like me. So weird. But then, I’m also weird.

Sorry all, meant as a reply for @Lesssugarketchup

Not clapping but I was at a funeral where the son of the deceased gave a very moving speech but interspersed were a lot of very funny stories which had everyone laughing. It was the most uplifting funeral I had attended

This reminds me of when everyone lining the route to Princess Diana's funeral wss clapping. I found that bizarre.

I also attended a church funeral and was very surprised that people clapped after each speaker. It seems inappropriate to me,

I wonder if it's the disconnect from religious services?

In the past more people would have attended church and known what the etiquette is at a service (and wouldn't clap people speaking at the front).

Nowadays there's less people that have been to services or formal occasions and would aliken it to wedding speeches or toasts in terms of frame of reference for "what to do when you hear someone talking at an event."

I think this is a really good point.

It will be the same people who "whoop" and scream in the theatre I suspect.

I think YANBU OP

My DH lost his best friend from a heart attack suddenly in his 50s.

’Tom’ was a performer, and entertainments manager at a holiday resort. His whole family are performers and his 2 sisters sang and danced their way through a funny and poignant eulogy that suited him perfectly.

At the end as the curtains closed around the coffin they whooped open and the celebrant called for one last round of applause for ‘Tom’. It was just so right.

Yes I think it's the disconnect from regularly attending church. I doubt mind it at all.

It's sad the person has died but I think of it as celebrating life so should fit the person, why does it have to be a competition to see how gloomy it has to be?