To feel this fed up

[lovemykitchenblinds]

To the outside world we probably look like an ideal happy family, Mum, Dad, 3 teenagers (11,15,17) , nice house, good jobs, nice cars, holidays etc (and that is all actually true). However, I am utterly fed up of feeling like the slave, and just generally being the dogsbody, that seems to moan all the time. I work full time running a business then feel like I spend my evenings cooking cleaning washing ironing and generally running about after everyone.
I've tried rotas, asking them to help, not doing it for them but it always just ends up that it's left to me again. I walked out and left a few months back for a week or so and went to stay with my sister and they all pleaded me to come home, which I did, but after a week or so it was as bad as ever.
I honestly feel like I'm starting to resent my whole family because of how fed up they make me feel. I've tried telling DH how I feel but he just says I'm over reacting, that they do help but it's never good enough for me as my standards are too high!!
Genuinely feel like just packing a bag and fleeing for the hills!

Of course DH will say you're overreacting - he's got a great thing going and doesn't want it to stop! No real advice OP as my DC are much younger but bumping for you

What are your standards? Are they a quick run around the house with the hoover or on your hands and knees scrubbing the floor every day? What stuff do you want them to take responsibility for?

Is it just the teens that are the issue? What about DH - does he pull his weight?

Is it possible that your standards are too high? How much washing and ironing do you do?

Could you pay for a cleaner?

I'd go on strike. Yanbu

I don't think my standards are too high, I like it to be clean, tidy and organised and I'm happy to make sure that happens but, I'd like them to do simple things to help like tidy up after themselves, put rubbish in bins (rather than bedroom floors), run a hoover occasionally or pop a load of washing on.
Please don't get me started on the "what to make for dinner every night" gripe that I have ...... no one takes responsibility for that!!!
Maybe life as a mum/wife just sucks!

Nope its not just you.....i am mum to two teenagers and seem to spend most of my time picking up/tidying/helping them solve problems!!!! My biggest gripe???? Mum where is.....and trying to organize meals soooo many times!!! They can be helpful when I am ill. They know how to do stuff..... just can't be arsed half the time. You are not alone.....🙄❤️

Start with making dinner for you, either 1 potion or a family meal but one you want and if they don't like it they can make their own.
The just do your washing, they can figure out how to use a washing machine on YouTube.
Don't be available for them, they are clearly taking you for granted so let them flounder and figure out how to do things themselves.

I get what you are saying but I know it would just dissolve into utter chaos and arguing and I really can't take that stress, which is why I probably relent and end up doing it, I'm my own worst enemy.