Thinking of ending it and now this

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Things have been crap between DH and I for a while. I really had enough this weekend. I was extremely upset and angry with him so waited till I had calmed down today and was going try and tell him that I am looking for a separation.

DH has done his usual thing of sticking his head in the sand until I calm down then ignoring the issues and pretending nothing has happened. So he seems to think all is ok again… it’s not…

However, he’s just had a message that MIL has had a nasty fall and is in the hospital and not in a good way (she’s 92)

How can I handle this? Now is not the time to have the calm talk I think we need. But equally I don’t just want to sit on it.

Well realistically you're going to have to sit on it for a short while. Even if you pushed ahead with the separation right now you're just risking a more acrimonious and bitter split.

Do you know how MIL is/prognosis?

She did it deliberately!!

Joking aside, I hope your MIL is OK, but obviously at her age it’s a big concern.

I think I would try to find some middle ground between telling him outright that you want to split, but not letting him think everything is hunky dory.

Could you say something like “obviously we aren’t getting on at all well and that will need to be addressed when we’ve resolved the situation with MIL?”

Sorry if this sounds wet.