To not let them know we’re getting married

[Thenamechangey]

I’ve posted once before under this name change.

I have a horrible family. It’s mostly my mum and dad, but my siblings aren’t exactly great because they’ve been brought up by said parents and they stick by them.

My fiancé and I want to get married soon. Would you reach out and invite them? (Not sure if this makes a difference, but my sister got married last year and didn’t invite me.)

I’d rather have nothing to do with my parents ever again, but my siblings are a lot younger than me and perhaps it’s unreasonable towards them? But then how do you invite some family only?

What is your ideal perfect wedding?

How feasible is that?

Lots of people get married in secret and then tell their families later. They may even have a little bbq or party to mark the occasion, if they so desire.

Do what you and your fiancé want.

And... congratulations! I Hope it is great

No matter what anyone else thinks or says, you must do what YOU want to do.

I had no family at either of my weddings because I can't bear fuss - 2 guests at one, 3 at the other.

You don't have to invite anyone if you don't want to - why ruin your day? Concentrate on your good friends, and your partner's family only (if they're OK).

I wouldn't invite them if you don't want to.

I got married very quietly, only two friends as witnesses and lunch afterwards. We were both over fifty so I suppose it may have been less of a big deal.

I didn’t tell my mother ( my father was dead) until about three years later. She and DH didn’t get on ( understatement of the year) . Surprisingly she was pleased.

do whatever you think will give you the best memories ( doesn’t sound as if this means including your family).