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To not discuss letting DD go on this music camp?

13 replies

RequiresUpdating · 26/06/2023 08:19

DD(11)'s music teacher suggested she go on a music camp in the autumn half term. She said she thought it would do DD good as she seems to like playing in a band, would encourage her, we live in a small village so not a lot of opportunity for that kind of thing etc. It's run by a friend of hers and she would go up one day. DD sounded interested (teacher spoke to her first about it). DD is unlikely to know anyone else going.

She's sent me the info. It's a week away with two concerts afterwards. I thought, when she described it to me that it was for children DD's age. However, the form gives you to different prices for
Under 20's
Over 20 in education/training
Over 20's

Under the rules:
Smoking allowed from age 16
Alcohol - forbidden for under 16's. Under 18's only beer or wine.
Drugs - forbidden, both soft and hard

DD has been away from be before on her school residential (1 week) so I'm not worried about that, although she was homesick even though she was with all her friends. She's quite a young 11 (still has another year in primary) although starting to be a bit more independent. I've no idea, and I think no way of knowing the proportion of ages of people going. There's no information about rooms and sharing etc.

AIBU to say no, she's not going, and not discuss it?
YANBu I wouldn't be happy with this set-up either.

OP posts:
Jazzappledelish · 26/06/2023 08:21

Have you actually looked in to it?

ie are the groups divided in to eg 10-14
14-17
17-20

have you researched reviews, maybe give them a call

Jazzappledelish · 26/06/2023 08:21

I've no idea, and I think no way of knowing the proportion of ages of people going. There's no information about rooms and sharing etc.

Call them 😐

TeaKitten · 26/06/2023 08:23

Why don’t you have any way of knowing? Are they super secretive?

Jazzappledelish · 26/06/2023 08:25

All the effort of writing out your OP could have gone in to calling the camp organiser to discuss

WandaWonder · 26/06/2023 08:26

I would get all the info then discuss with my child, we don't run a dicatorship

gogomoto · 26/06/2023 08:27

My dd did think like this, she loved it. The younger kids were kept together, many of the older ones helped with the younger ones and had been coming since they were 8.

Testina · 26/06/2023 08:27

Jazzappledelish · 26/06/2023 08:25

All the effort of writing out your OP could have gone in to calling the camp organiser to discuss

Exactly that.
It’s actually pretty weird not to.

PinkFootstool · 26/06/2023 08:27

You have insufficient information. Ask more questions. If you're still worried, at least you'll be fully informed and can explain the full concerns to the teacher.

Dreamer8 · 26/06/2023 08:33

Yeah YABU to immediately rule it out with no info.

PolkadotsAndMoonbeams · 26/06/2023 08:36

I think I'd speak to the organisers first. Or ask the teacher how many other pupils she's sent and at what ages.

You might find they're split out into bands by age and stage anyway. Things like this are so expensive to run it probably isn't possible to run three camps for different age groups, but you can have them there all together.

Trees6 · 26/06/2023 08:36

Not enough info. I’d want to ask a few questions.

Cloverforever · 26/06/2023 08:54

Why wouldn't you discuss it? Maybe she'd be happy going with older kids.

ApplesInTheSunshine · 26/06/2023 08:57

YABU. Just ask Confused

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