Is your hubby affectionate?

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Have a great relationship with my hubby he is my best friend and a brilliant dad. However I just find he isn’t very affectionate unless he is trying to get some 🤣

Then I find once we have had sex he isn’t interested in anything until he has the horn again. I always kiss and hug him but he wouldn’t do this if I didn’t.

Im intrigued to know what others hubbys are like?

Mine is very affectionate, sometimes too much and I tell him to bugger off, especially in this heat.

Mine is. I have to tell him to get off 😂 I'm just not a touchy feely person though.

If I called him hubby,which I would never do!then no he would definitely not be.

Yes very and definitely not for sex. I've been chronically ill the past few years so no sex and he knows it. He's a cuddler. If he can't get at me, he cuddles the cat 😂
Frankly, I wouldn't put up with anything less. Men who pester for sex, or only show affection to get it are a waste of space.

Yes, he gives me lots of hugs, back tickles, massages and slaps my bum whenever he walks past. I really love being touched and I crave it.

Mine isn't particularly affectionate either. Just not his nature.
It didn't used to bother my when we were younger but now I'm in my 40's and starting to feel a bit frumpy and invisible, I find I really need it more!
So it's becoming frustrating for me

Mine is, very much so. He likes to hold hands if we're walking side by side, even if it's just walking up our own garden. He loves a cuddle/hug if we are in the kitchen together and will not go to work without a kiss, he forgot one morning and told me it bothered him when he remembered. He competes in a type of Motorsport and I seldom attend but today I did go and meet him there, when he seen me he was straight over for a hug and then walked around holding my hand, its completely natural to us but I did notice there was no one else doing it. He's a big cuddly guy and love him all the more because of it.

Yes, mine is affectionate. Kiss hello and goodbye, hold hands watching TV, usually go to sleep cuddled in together ( except in Summer - we live in Spain 🥵) We're together 32 years - got more affectionate as we got older.

Stop saying "hubby" and see how it goes.

Yes my husband is very affectionate and loving. He was like it when we got together and then in the middle years he was less so as we were so busy with life and work. Now we're getting older he couldn't be more affectionate. We just have more time for each other now.

If you called me hubby I'd be cold as well

Jeez

Have you read the love languages book? My husband is affectionate because physical touch is his love language, but it’s not mine so I have to make an effort to reciprocate because I know it’s important to him…but it’s not mine. My love language is ‘acts of service’ so I like to show love by doing things for him and that’s what I most crave in return. I enjoy cuddling up sometimes but to a certain degree we’ve both made peace with the fact that I’m not touchy feely by nature. I wonder if this is the case for your husband?

Not married but long term
sex sadly went out of the window years ago but still very physically affectionate
kisses, cuddles, massages, just an affectionate stroke of the hand even - all the time

No mine isn't but then I blame myself. My hubby was like you, only affectionate when wanting it. So I stopped responding and now in a stalemate of no affection. I do crave affection!

@Doggydarling your husband sounds lovely & is proud to have you with him. That was a lovely post to read x

Yes much more than me. I prefer conversation to cuddles.

Yes mine is, but we do also go through stages of having no time for each other (two young kids). I'd say his love language is definitely more doing stuff for me though. He enjoys making me coffee's or food. Always asking if he can get me anything.

Yep. :) we're on the sofa watching Glasto coverage atm with my legs on his lap and his hands on my legs. He's tactile generally, doesn't like going to sleep without a cuddle etc and it's not related to sex

An ex was only tactile when he wanted sex and it made me feel a bit shit.

Lots of affection here.

Cuddles on the sofa, a kiss in the kitchen when he walks through and I'm in there. Dog walks holding hands. I get a cuddle and a thank you every day before he sits down to eat whatever I've cooked (one of us cooks, one does bedtime), cuddles in bed and we fall asleep with one of us roughing the other in some way, always kisses me goodbye and hello.

Some people would hate it but I love it

My husband is very affectionate, hugs, kisses, tells me I am beautiful. Tears up from time to time and thanks me for the millionth time for going through ivf and the difficult labour to have our baby.

He is very kind and thinks the world of me!

I him.