Would this put you off a new friend?

[lilpeepgothboy]

I’ve become friendly with a colleague, we don’t see each other much at work because we’re only in 2 days a week and they tend to be full of meetings etc.

We went out for coffee this weekend and wow it was almost like I might as well have not been there. I’ve never known someone to talk at me for two hours. It was relentless.

Any time I tried to speak she’s instantly cut me off, at one point I ignored her and continued talking and she did stop. She’s already asked to go out again but I feel like why should I?

I've just spent a weekend with someone like that OP. I came home shattered from being talked at constantly.

Had a friend like this, lasted a year of being talked at. Had to end the friendship she knew nothing about me but by the end of that I knew her whole extended family history off by heart, never again! 🤯

I wouldn’t meet up again. It’s highly likely that it will be exactly the same and then you are left trying to escape an unwanted‘friendship’.

I have a friend like this, she has autism, and I always say to my husband I'm off out to be spoken to for 2 hrs.

But she is a friend and so I listen and sometimes I get to say somethings ir she will ask me stuff, but mostly I just listen.

People in work think she is weird, but she is interesting and has an amazing memory.

She goes away happy, so all good.

Send her my way, I don’t like talking and I love people talking at me! There’s someone for everyone

I don't think its worth it. I have a friend who, when we meet up, its like she just unloads on me. She has tons of problems with health, money and personal life so she needs the friendship but I'm exhausted after seeing her.

So what if she is? OP should then find the behaviour not a problem?

I have a friend like this. I see her less and less. I agree with the sounding board comments; I know she uses me to 'offload' on and never asks about me, it is exhausting and draining. Then she will find out something and say 'oh I didn't know you were doing X,Y,Z'...because I can't get a word in and end up nodding or saying mmm for the whole meeting.

If possible I would agree to try one more time but then avoid meeting your friend if it happens again.

I have made some other friends more recently and the exchange in conversation and taking turns to speak is really refreshing!

Talkers are rarely listeners and, once you dig down a bit, tend to have some narcissistic tendencies. But maybe worth a second chance, just in case they get the hint.

Agree with others: I'd try and mention it and see how she reacts. That's all you'll need to know for your decision. You choose who you want to hang out with - you might miss making other connections if you keep hanging out with her even though you don't want to.

I used to have a friend that would give me advice or lecture me as a response to pretty much anything I said. It was exhausting and I didn't feel good after meeting with her. I let it fizzle out, but in hindsight I should have tried to address it. It might have led to the same outcome but at least I gave it a try as this is also what friendship is about, to discuss such things.

It sounds like anxiety or nerves. I'd meet her a few more times because she'll probably start to relax and maybe talk a bit less.