In-laws won’t leave our 9 week puppy alone

[Bubblegum74]

Hi we just got a puppy had him a few days he’s 9 weeks old tomorrow. We went to my in-laws today and literally my in-laws wouldn’t leave him alone, DH told his mum to move all tablets from within his reach but when we got there I had to move all tablets from his reach which annoyed me I did say I’m moving your tablets from puppy’s reach we did say to move them. My mother in law wanted to hold him all the time not letting him rest/waking him up all the time & my father in law was trying to get the puppy to jump up at him right next to a glass table & was trying to get him to bite his arms. So AIBU to not want to take puppy over there anymore

Your in-laws weren't behaving appropriately but ultimately your puppy is your responsibility. It's not your in-laws job to puppy-proof their home for you.

9 weeks is also very, very young. If you're going to take him out and get him socialised (which is vital) then that needs to be done under really strict supervision from you - so you're right, if your in-laws can't be trusted to be responsible and sensible, then don't take the puppy again.

We didn’t say to them puppy proof your home DH said to remove tablets within puppies reach as normally they leave them lying around - yes it’s our puppy our responsibility I agree but it was only tablets we said to move away

That is puppy-proofing though. Because they wouldn't need to move the tablets if you weren't bringing your dog round to visit.

Yes agree there but DH did say to them to move tablets but they didn’t

The puppy won’t be vaccinated yet - presumably you carried it so it didn’t walk around outside?

You should have had them in your home. It’s too young to go to lots of different places.

Puppy was inside not garden

I know that and appreciate it's frustrating but ultimately as the owners it's your job to make sure the environment is safe for your puppy.

Between 3 and 12 weeks of age is the critical period for puppies to have experienced a whole host of things - adults, children, dogs, cats, horses, cars, traffic...the list is endless.

So, depending on how much the breeder has exposed the pup to, and how much you expose him to will determine whether he turns out sociable and confident or anxious and nervous. This is also linked to your level of anxiousness or confidence.

Ideally, you need people to visit you with their (vaccinated) dogs and you also need to get him out and about and expose him positively as much as possible even if you have to carry him.

@AngryBirdsNoMore unvaccinated or part vaccinated puppies are ok to go in private back gardens, just not waterways or ponds.

Other people really can ruin your dog's training.
I am not always a fan of a lot of socialising for puppies, as ime other people are big fans of encouraging puppies to jump up at them and saying "oh I don't mind!" when you tell the dog not to do that... I bloody mind and it's my dog!
Keep the puppy at home from now on while you work on his training, and avoid busy town centres, parks etc which are a minefield.

A 9 week old puppy is still getting used to the house, you, a lead, toilet training and the car. I wouldn’t be taking a pup that young to go visiting.
Puppies bite. That’s what they do.
Puppy proof your place and have visitors to you. You can’t take the pup round to other people and then dictate how they will behave and what is or isn’t safe in their own home.

Keep the puppy at home until it's at least 10 months old. It needs to get used to you and it's surrounding before it goes visiting. If you're having trouble with biting get a muzzle.

So you're not fond of your in laws then?

This is just about the worse dog advice I've ever read.

Doing what you suggest will cause the dog to become fear reactive, anxious and a nightmare.

Think you hit the nail on the head there!

How silly. People shouldn’t just make stuff up because they hate dogs.

Muzzle a dpuppy? Oh my frigging days...

I never said that I wasn’t fond of them not fond of how they was today with puppy

First of all you are wrong there I didn’t let them
carry it on - I moved all tablets out the way, I told them to leave him to rest & not to get him to play bite

YABU for taking a puppy to their house

Muzzle a puppy....? Fuck sake

A muzzle? On a puppy? Biting at that age is normal, you don’t stick a muzzle on, you correct the behaviour at that age. Would you muzzle your toddler for putting everything in their mouth? No you stop them and try to get them not to do it! OP yabu for not including a picture of said little rascal!

Some people are bizarre.
We go on an extended family holiday. This time our 3 year old grand niece was there along with our fairly placid ddog. Cue BIL arriving ( her GF) and trying to play lots of biting games with ddog in the living room with his own GD. I do not know what goes through peoples minds sometimes.

My in laws was the first place our puppy (cocker spaniel) visited when we first picked him up last year. It’s great to expose them as much as possible from a young age and providing they have a safe and secure garden, letting them off the lead to explore is great. Holing them up for months does them no favours and I think why there are so many “anxious” dogs around at the moment. Ours was about 12 weeks old when we picked him up though, and my in laws have a lot of experience with dogs, with two of their own that are fully vaccinated. Perhaps wait a few weeks and try again and redirect your in laws attention to getting them to help train him with simple commands like “sit” and recall. They’ll feel involved then and be doing you a favour as well 😁. Our now adult dog LOVES going to “Nana and Grumps’” which has been a life save for occasional doggy day care!