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To get annoyed at DH in regards to breakfast

23 replies

TryAgainAnotherDay · 25/06/2023 11:38

Had a late night last night as went to an event with the children. Got up around 9ish this morning. I went to cook us all a nice breakfast and DH said he would do it, lovely. About half an hour later I hear any cooking, go into kitchen and DH is messing on his phone. I ask him when he is going to start breakfast as we are all hungry and he says in a minute. Next thing I hear is him talking on the phone, I go in the kitchen and he's on the phone to his parents. Around 45minutes later DD2 is getting fussy and asking for breakfast, I'm starving so go in the kitchen and start breakfast. DH ends the call with parents and starts having a go saying he is cooking breakfast and he will do it when he is ready, I said DD is hungry and he said well just give her some crisps or something.

AIBU to be really annoyed at this, or should I just be appreciative that he's offered to cook breakfast?

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RachelGreensHair · 25/06/2023 11:40

That would annoy me too! He could have easily made toast for the kids and called his parents after.

justanothermanicmonday1 · 25/06/2023 11:41

No. What an arse!

So it has to be on his terms? YANBU

Nussbaum · 25/06/2023 11:41

I would have put the kids in the car and taken them to the nearest greasy spoon for a full English.
He would have had to make do with cooking for just himself, when he felt ready of course.

Mrsjayy · 25/06/2023 11:42

He sounds a total faffer either do it or not don't gitter about for an hour doing nothing Yanbu !

BibbleandSqwauk · 25/06/2023 11:42

Yanbu op, but he'll no doubt passively aggressively turn this round as "trying to do something nice" as will some on the thread. It's not nice if the offer actually ends up not being completed and actually makes people cross.

JudgeRudy · 25/06/2023 11:42

It would irritate me yes, but not enough to start a thread.

TryAgainAnotherDay · 25/06/2023 11:43

Nussbaum · 25/06/2023 11:41

I would have put the kids in the car and taken them to the nearest greasy spoon for a full English.
He would have had to make do with cooking for just himself, when he felt ready of course.

The thought did cross my mind.

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Mrsjayy · 25/06/2023 11:43

Cooking for the family isn't something you need to applaud and tell him he's a good boy folk are hungry and need fed !

RightOnTheEdge · 25/06/2023 11:45

YANBU. He was being an arse.

Margoliciously · 25/06/2023 11:53

He may have offered, but he didn’t actually do it did he? So no, he doesn’t get to be arsey about it.

thecatsthecats · 25/06/2023 12:06

The suggestion of having crisps whilst waiting is almost fucking triggering to me!

My husband does the same. Agree a time line or offer to do food. Faff around. Make it slowly. Suggest crappy filler snacks to sort a perfectly avoidable gap in time.

It didn't bother me as much until I got pregnant, and I gave him very short shrift when I was feeling nauseous and desperately needed to eat to make the sickness go away.

You don't get any brownie points for just offering.

Blondeshavemorefun · 25/06/2023 12:19

I can't beleive you left him to talk for 45 mins

I would have been in after 5 saying are you cooking or I will. Our child is hungry

Womencanlift · 25/06/2023 12:28

He has done this so he can throw it back to you that he offered but you were impatient. No doubt a comment was made to his parents about you being impatient too

Mamabird2022 · 25/06/2023 12:42

I would be so annoyed. I’m so glad I’m the only one who cooks in our house because if DH told me he was gonna make breakfast then took that long and my child was hungry then offered crisps I would have hit him with the frying pan and cooked it myself

DustyLee123 · 25/06/2023 12:42

He’s a dick.

Aquamarine1029 · 25/06/2023 12:45

What's so "lovely" about your husband cooking breakfast? Does he expect a fucking trophy? What a man child.

misskatamari · 25/06/2023 12:48

Is this the tip of the iceberg? This is such weird behaviour! If you say you’re making breakfast, bloody make breakfast! I would be fuming, more so with his totally unreasonable reaction! Arse!

TryAgainAnotherDay · 25/06/2023 12:56

misskatamari · 25/06/2023 12:48

Is this the tip of the iceberg? This is such weird behaviour! If you say you’re making breakfast, bloody make breakfast! I would be fuming, more so with his totally unreasonable reaction! Arse!

Not really, but he does have a habit of faffing and procrastinating, drives me mad.

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Equalitea · 25/06/2023 15:08

I would be absolutely livid. I’d have got in the car and taken the kids out for breakfast rather than wait for him or be told I can’t cook in my own house.

continentallentil · 25/06/2023 15:09

No, either do it or don’t.

endofthelinefinally · 25/06/2023 15:15

He sounds selfish and clueless. Most parents would know that it isn't kind to make small children wait too long when you have told them their food is coming. Does he do this kind of thing often? If so I would think it is deliberate.

AtleastitsnotMonday · 25/06/2023 15:18

Next time he offers ask what time he plans to eat. Gives you the opportunity to either have a snack or say thanks for the offer but the kids and I need to eat sooner so I'll sort us out and you sort yourself when you're ready.

ThursdayFreedom · 25/06/2023 15:21

id have just told him to either get on with it or get out of my way. It was supposed to be breakfast, not lunch!!

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