To not have a lie in and get up

[Daisydu]

Lighthearted really. Dp works long hours, often weekends aswel as all week, I’m part time and work evenings so I’m around for the kids during the day. (we have 3 under 5!) as well as older ones. I have them all day then go to work, I won’t lie I am pretty mentally drained and he knows that. But he goes to work and has to come home and do bedtime while I’m at work, so he’s also shattered. I guess like most other couples!

anyway, it’s a rare day off for him today, he’s got up at 7.30 with the kids and left me in bed. That’s really nice of him considering he doesn’t get a lie in ever either. But, I’m wide awake, I want to get up and start doing dishes, get my washing out, do bits round the house.. I don’t want to be in bed really. I know if I get up he will be annoyed I didn’t lie in. But the difference is, if he has a lie in I do the housework while downstairs with the kids, he doesn’t, he just sits there with them so I wake up to a bomb site of a house. The thing is, he will be annoyed, and it seems like he doesn’t want me down there, probably so he can sit and do f all without me asking him to do stuff, but I want to get up lol.

so would I be completely unreasonable to just get up and do what I want? Is it ungrateful if me?

Stay in bed. He is spending time with the kids so no need for him to do housework, being with the kids is far more important.

Sounds like you need a rest. Take it.

Just get up.

And if he grumps say you love that he considers you even when he is so busy and tired himself, say thank you and offer him the opportunity to go back to bed.

Get up and do what you want to. I agree thinking about those chores piling up is agony. I'm not a late riser myself... I love early mornings and a chance to " get ahead"

Stay in bed and ask husband to start a wash .

Agreed. I mean I get you need to stay on top of stuff with 3 under 5 but what's wrong with just playing with them and having a chilled out morning, I'd far rather come down to a bombsite of a mess than have him ignore them whilst he does some washing up and pegs out the clothes.

Take the chance to just do nothing and have a break you'll end up burning out and missing out if you spend your time doing a million jobs.

I get annoyed if I get up with the kids then DP gets up at like 7:30 because that's a wasted lie in I could have had

Scroll through Mumsnet for another half hour then get up. 9 is a reasonable lie in time and at least you will have had a bit of a break!

The real issue is if he’s not pulling his weight with the house during your usual day to day life.

I’m not complaining he doesn’t do anything so much, i wouldn’t have a go at him about it as he’s a good dad and good partner and does his share, but I guess I’m just different and want to be up and get ahead of myself, so I don’t have loads to do later. Like a lot of men, things that I see doing he doesn’t lol. I’ll stay in bed a bit longer… but it’s driving me nuts lol. He does deserve some quality time with the kids, and they’ve missed him so I’ll leave them be for a bit.

He does. I do everything while he’s at work, but when I go to work and he’s home doing bedtime ect he has to tidy up and sort the house once kids are in bed as I get home quite late, he never leaves stuff for me, I come home to it clean and tidy. He doesn’t have much time to chill himself.

This.

If you don't want to lie I then don't. I don't like a lie in , I don't see the point. I think him looking after 3 underfive is helpful even if not doing the other things but also understand its annoying if there is just more mess as a result. Can you get up and go for a walk or do something else you like.