To think past 10pm is too late to be letting your children continuously scream in the garden?

sunshine080 · 2023-06-24T21:35:11+00:00

A house over the back of ours have been having a BBQ since mid afternoon. They've been playing music and the children have been out playing for most of the day. I'm estimating the children are over 5 years old having seen them biking up and down the road this afternoon. I have a 1 year old who sleeps in the back bedroom and despite the window being closed (which I would rather it wasn't because it's 27°C in their room), the sound of the group of children constantly shrieking and screaming has woken my toddler up twice already. I'm not for one minute suggesting kids in their own back garden should generally not be allowed to make noise for the sake of neighbours, at the end of the day I have a 1 year old who will squeal running around the garden in the afternoon. But AIBU for thinking that past a certain time (10pm) the parents, who are out there with them, should at least be asking them to play something that isn't riling them up so much?

FlippyFloppyFlappy · 24/06/2023 22:36

I wouldn’t let mine scream in the garden at 10pm 🤷🏼‍♀️

Phoenix76 · 24/06/2023 22:41

FlippyFloppyFlappy · 24/06/2023 22:36

I wouldn’t let mine scream in the garden at 10pm 🤷🏼‍♀️

Same here

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/06/2023 22:42

Well no but is it very regular or a complete one-off?

Original poster

sunshine080 · 24/06/2023 22:49

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/06/2023 22:42

Well no but is it very regular or a complete one-off?

The generalised screaming from their children is daily, and they are usually out till 8-9pm when the evenings are light. The BBQ is a one off though.

OP posts:

Yfory · 24/06/2023 23:12

I wouldnt let mine scream in the garden at any time of day. Once or twice yes if they've fallen and hurt themselves or a sibling has whacked them with a stick or something but other than that no screaming.

If I was hosting a party I would ask people to keep noise down after 10pm and they'd all be gone by 12/1am. Kids playing fine........ but not screaming and preferably not shouting.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/06/2023 23:14

The adults at the BBQ are presumably being quite noisy too?

I think 10 pm is too late for constant screaming. Once it’s dark, the noise carries much more too.

Stratocumulus · 24/06/2023 23:14

Get your revenge. Mow your lawn at 0730 tomorrow morning.

EbonyRaven · 24/06/2023 23:25

As a pp said, I would never have let mine scream their heads off in the garden at ANY time of day. There are a couple of families in my street with screechy kids, literally screaming into the void, with parents who don't give a flying fuck that they're hollaring and screeching ... It's really poor parenting IMO.

I don't care if this sounds arrogant, my kids NEVER behaved like this. They never screamed and screeched and played merry hell, because they were raised well, by me and DH. We looked after them, played with them, taught them and learned with them, and paid them attention when they needed it.

We didn't ignore them, and scroll through our phone, or watch TV, or talk to our mates, or play video games etc etc, and ignore our kids. We involved them in everything and made them part of our lives. Some parents act like their kids are a hinderance and a burden, and the screeching for attention behaviour is the result.

These type of screechy children (like in the OP and my neighbours children,) just HOWL into the day and evening for attention - because they have distant and uncaring parents.

Incredibly sad.

AnneElliott · 24/06/2023 23:30

I didn't allow screaming at all. Happy playing sounds yes but screaming meant DS came back inside. No-one wants to hear that!

cakewench · 24/06/2023 23:36

If it’s a rare late night I try to remind myself of that.

I’d be annoyed if it were every weekend

Crinkle77 · 25/06/2023 00:22

Hmmm I don't know. Its was a beautiful day and evening and I don't blame people for wanting to enjoy it. This evening there were families playing rounders on the village green where I live until 10pm. They were having a great time and there was lots of whooping and cheering. I thought it was lovely that they were all enjoying themselves on such a fabulous evening. However I might feel differently if I was trying to get kids to sleep or it was a regular occurrence.

LlynTegid · 25/06/2023 07:08

I would speak to them.

yogasaurus · 25/06/2023 07:24

On an ongoing basis, no way. If it’s a one- off family party/bbq, I think once a year etc it’s fine, just one of those things you have to suck up from time to time.

Anoushkaka · 25/06/2023 07:32

EbonyRaven · 24/06/2023 23:25

As a pp said, I would never have let mine scream their heads off in the garden at ANY time of day. There are a couple of families in my street with screechy kids, literally screaming into the void, with parents who don't give a flying fuck that they're hollaring and screeching ... It's really poor parenting IMO.

I don't care if this sounds arrogant, my kids NEVER behaved like this. They never screamed and screeched and played merry hell, because they were raised well, by me and DH. We looked after them, played with them, taught them and learned with them, and paid them attention when they needed it.

We didn't ignore them, and scroll through our phone, or watch TV, or talk to our mates, or play video games etc etc, and ignore our kids. We involved them in everything and made them part of our lives. Some parents act like their kids are a hinderance and a burden, and the screeching for attention behaviour is the result.

These type of screechy children (like in the OP and my neighbours children,) just HOWL into the day and evening for attention - because they have distant and uncaring parents.

Incredibly sad.

Absolutely agree with this.

PuttingDownRoots · 25/06/2023 07:45

This is why I loved the German noise laws... everyone knew it didn't matter how noisy it was at 9.45, it would be silence at 10pm. The only times I heard anything past these times was New Years Eve... and when Germany played in the World Cup (and that was cheering/groans for a minute)

Zebedee55 · 25/06/2023 07:54

EbonyRaven · 24/06/2023 23:25

As a pp said, I would never have let mine scream their heads off in the garden at ANY time of day. There are a couple of families in my street with screechy kids, literally screaming into the void, with parents who don't give a flying fuck that they're hollaring and screeching ... It's really poor parenting IMO.

I don't care if this sounds arrogant, my kids NEVER behaved like this. They never screamed and screeched and played merry hell, because they were raised well, by me and DH. We looked after them, played with them, taught them and learned with them, and paid them attention when they needed it.

We didn't ignore them, and scroll through our phone, or watch TV, or talk to our mates, or play video games etc etc, and ignore our kids. We involved them in everything and made them part of our lives. Some parents act like their kids are a hinderance and a burden, and the screeching for attention behaviour is the result.

These type of screechy children (like in the OP and my neighbours children,) just HOWL into the day and evening for attention - because they have distant and uncaring parents.

Incredibly sad.

No, not me.

Lazy parenting. 🙄

SittinOnTheDock · 25/06/2023 07:59

EbonyRaven · 24/06/2023 23:25

As a pp said, I would never have let mine scream their heads off in the garden at ANY time of day. There are a couple of families in my street with screechy kids, literally screaming into the void, with parents who don't give a flying fuck that they're hollaring and screeching ... It's really poor parenting IMO.

I don't care if this sounds arrogant, my kids NEVER behaved like this. They never screamed and screeched and played merry hell, because they were raised well, by me and DH. We looked after them, played with them, taught them and learned with them, and paid them attention when they needed it.

We didn't ignore them, and scroll through our phone, or watch TV, or talk to our mates, or play video games etc etc, and ignore our kids. We involved them in everything and made them part of our lives. Some parents act like their kids are a hinderance and a burden, and the screeching for attention behaviour is the result.

These type of screechy children (like in the OP and my neighbours children,) just HOWL into the day and evening for attention - because they have distant and uncaring parents.

Incredibly sad.

What a load of bollocks.

Different children are noisy or quiet. Some like screaming, it's nothing to do with parenting.

gogomoto · 25/06/2023 08:14

Screaming is never ok. Having fun is fine

GoodChat · 25/06/2023 08:25

They shouldn't have been letting the children scream at that time but if it's a one off I would have just put the toddler in your bed until the party died down.

Artoodeetoo · 25/06/2023 08:27

I don't mind the odd family party etc (there was one here yesterday thay went on late but its rare), but yes I'd get annoyed by loud noise from anyone let alone children screaming regularly late at night. Not sure what you can do about it though, some people are just selfish.

Buffypaws · 25/06/2023 08:54

I think half past midnight is too late to let your 10 children aged 4-18 continuously scream, clap, cheer, dance and sing on a train full of people on the district line and then get off at Southfields and continue shrieking all the way into the street, but people still do it

PurpleParrotfish · 25/06/2023 09:24

EbonyRaven · 24/06/2023 23:25

As a pp said, I would never have let mine scream their heads off in the garden at ANY time of day. There are a couple of families in my street with screechy kids, literally screaming into the void, with parents who don't give a flying fuck that they're hollaring and screeching ... It's really poor parenting IMO.

I don't care if this sounds arrogant, my kids NEVER behaved like this. They never screamed and screeched and played merry hell, because they were raised well, by me and DH. We looked after them, played with them, taught them and learned with them, and paid them attention when they needed it.

We didn't ignore them, and scroll through our phone, or watch TV, or talk to our mates, or play video games etc etc, and ignore our kids. We involved them in everything and made them part of our lives. Some parents act like their kids are a hinderance and a burden, and the screeching for attention behaviour is the result.

These type of screechy children (like in the OP and my neighbours children,) just HOWL into the day and evening for attention - because they have distant and uncaring parents.

Incredibly sad.

In my experience kids playing in a group without adult involvement - which presumably yours do, you don’t helicopter them all the time - almost always get louder and more shrieky as they get overexcited, squabble or simply try and get heard above the others. They’re not doing it to try and get adult attention!

No amount of excellent parenting will stop kids wanting to be noisy with their friends at times. It’s just a matter of intervening if the noise gets to inappropriate levels and judging when those are.

Bogartysmack79 · 16/07/2023 09:11

Yfory · 24/06/2023 23:12

I wouldnt let mine scream in the garden at any time of day. Once or twice yes if they've fallen and hurt themselves or a sibling has whacked them with a stick or something but other than that no screaming.

If I was hosting a party I would ask people to keep noise down after 10pm and they'd all be gone by 12/1am. Kids playing fine........ but not screaming and preferably not shouting.

Exactly this! But I'd never host outside full stop and certainly not past 7pm. There seems to be lack of respect and common sense these days!

unicornhair · 16/07/2023 09:33

My screaming neighbours have stopped this year. It’s bliss.
A brother and sister who screamed blue murder from 6am to late in the evening. Literal screaming. Their dad who has a big booming voice would be out there as well, shouting their names non fucking stop (whilst they ignored him). Literal torture.

However teen girl has obviously had enough and it’s gone quiet. Boy has friends round but they play normally.