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To feel like the house we bought is cursed?

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Feelinadequate23 · 24/06/2023 20:53

DH and I bought our first family home together last year after selling our small flat when we found out we were pregnant.

it wasn’t the perfect house and needed lots of work doing but it’s in a really decent area and not many houses come up around here, so we felt we had to buy it really, to make sure we had somewhere suitable when the baby arrived.

Since buying it I feel it’s been nothing but trouble for us. It had loads of hidden problems due to dodgy DIY by previous owners, gets extremely hot in summer and cold in winter, the work that needed doing is costing us a fortune and led me to switch from a job I loved to one I’m less keen on, so I could earn more money to cover the works cost. The works themselves were stressful and full of issues and I’m not even particularly happy with the final product as there’s loads of things that aren’t quite right. We can’t afford to put any of it right either / there are some fundamental design flaws as we did it in a hurry and didn’t get the best designer as we were on a tight budget.

obviously we can’t move now as the mortgage situation is crazy plus DH won’t hear of it after all the work we’ve put in and it’s really hard to buy around here anyway. AIBU to be thoroughly fed up and just dreaming of the day we can eventually move again? (Probably in 10 years 😭). Just feels like it’s cursed and giving us so much more pain than joy.

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Leastsaidsoonestscrewed · 25/06/2023 02:02

Of course it isn't "cursed"🙄

You just bought a house that's more trouble than you expected, some of which you acknowledge is due to decisions you made. Happens, unfortunately.

Violasaremyfavourite · 25/06/2023 02:22

We bought a house and despite an inspection beforehand we discovered botched DIY going back 40 years and a leaking roof with a temporary patch up job. We had tradesmen about twice a week for the first two months. We were beside ourselves with the disruption and cost. Gradually we got things put right over some years. We prioritized the children's bedrooms so they had a nice space. Try to remember why you bought the house. Just make sure that you plan out the next changes really carefully - there's lots of stuff online for inspiration.

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