Am I not being grateful enough?

[Twinsmummy1812]

I don’t think it’s me but I am in my 50’s so perhaps I’m getting it wrong.

I have a husband and wife team come to clean every fortnight. I was on holiday when they last came and they messaged to say they had cleaned my bathroom and it looked great. I messaged back saying thank you and it would be lovely to come back to and paid them by bank transfer. Next time they came to clean she said she thought I would have text once I’d got home to thank her again (genuinely never occurred to me and tbh the room didn’t look that good!)

Separate occasion - The husband of the cleaner also cleans carpets and my son has a stain on his rug, I asked if he could spot clean it, he said yes, we agreed a price and he cleaned it. He showed me the rug after (it still has a mark but stains are tricky) so I said it was much better thank you very much and paid him. Next time they came they asked whether I was still pleased about the rug, I said I’m sure it’s great but my son was back from Uni and his stuff is spread all over his floor so I couldn’t actually see the rug and I laughed! He looked hurt and she ‘jokingly’ said “that’s what they think of our work…”

A different guy came to valet my husband’s sports car (new to us). Husband has been called away for the day or he would have dealt with him. Seemed like a nice guy, I chatted with him, got him a drink and never having had a car valeted at home before was surprised how long he took. After 2 hours I went outside and said I had to go out for a hour, was he okay? He said yes, he allowed 2.5hours, he didn’t need me for anything, he’d just finished the outside and was starting on the inside (😳) car looked beautiful though and I told him so. DH had already paid him. I told him my parents were in the house if he needed anything, thanked him and left. He was gone when I returned an hour later. DH returned around 11.30pm so didn’t see the car but I told him it looked great. Next morning he woke up to a message from the guy saying how he couldn’t believe that my husband hadn’t been in touch to thank him, that the interior had taken 10 minutes longer than he expected for no extra money. He blocked my DH on Facebook and said he wasn’t coming back to clean our other cars. My DH phoned him and calmly explained that he hadn’t seen the car at that point, if it had taken longer than expected he would have been happy to pay and frankly he should have been a grown up and contacted him rather than throwing a tantrum! He’s not welcome back.

this has all been in the last month! They were all in their early twenties. Is it me?!

I used to go to a hair salon regularly and see the same stylist each time. I had to postpone one appointment which would have been in 3 days time because I had a family emergency meaning I had to unexpectedly travel back to my home area to look after my toddler niece and phoned to let them know and rebook. The receptionist made the new appointment and then asked if I wanted to speak to the stylist. I said no, there was no need, thank you and she immediately became very snotty and informed me that I might wish to apologise to the stylist for wasting his time!

No darling, wasting his time would have been by just not turning up. Not by giving 3 days notice! 🙄

I always text my cleaner to say thank you, but she's my sister and actually tidies and sorts for me too! Random people who I pay to do jobs I thank them in person, might tip them if I think they've done an excellent job or would leave a good review for them. But, I have my own business, I don't expect gushing thanks but do always appreciate a good review, and my staff always appreciate tips, although I don't think negatively when people don't either

I am so sick of this shit - fucking snowflakes wanting to be thanked and praised excessively for doing their damn jobs. I recently fired a decorator because he was exhausting, wanting me to comment on every damn detail again and again. I was already paying him, and had said thank you it looks great. Enough already!

I do like to be thanked on top the pay but it happens so seldom that I would quickly run out of clients if I started to demand it.

How bizarre, of course if you are there when the cleaner finishes, car detailer finishes etc. you smile and say thanks but you are paying someone to do a job, it hardly needs follow up. Thank you texts are for the morning after someone has had you round for dinner or someone has done something nice for you.