To organise a holiday after my wedding

[5599katherine]

I am getting married soon and close family and friends are coming from abroad for the big day. Its been alot to organise but we are just so happy to have everyone there.
My Mum and sister are coming and i had organised after the wedding to take them for a short trip with my husband (hes happy about it!) Before they return home.
I asked my SIL and MIL if they would like to join on the trip, and they told me no. They werent interested and I was a bit hurt as we usually travel together but anyway no problem. Last week i went for a meal with my in laws, only to find out they are going on a trip, all together with my sister in law and brother in laws family and even some of our friends, guests from our wedding. They are going to the exact same place we are, theyve booked hotels and transport and not even asked me. When i asked my SIL about it she said you can book the same hotel as us and we can travel seperately.
I havent booked any hotel yet, they are all a similar price. I actually felt a bit like it was her way or the high way.
I have a tricky relationship with my SIL where it is better if we see each other just sometimes and dont get too involved, she has done things like this in the past and ive felt hurt.
What should i do? Do i have a right to be upset or am i making mountains out of mole hills?

I think it’s fine for people to want to have separate holidays or go with different people sometimes. You don’t always have to go away together.
Maybe, as you were already going with your family and had just had a wedding, they thought two holidays would be a lot money wise & time off work wise?

Yes i agree, but this trip is the exact same time and place as our trip.

It's weird. Book somewhere else and don't tell them.

you are already there then so will see them. I’m not understanding the problem then.

Maybe they thought you'd be going away with your husband only?

So you asked them to join you, they said no. But then you found out they are all going to where you asked them to go to? Am I reading that right?

This is my question, too.

If you have not booked your hotels yet just book to go somewhere else and don’t tell them

@Dreamer8 yes that is correct.

I dont think this is anything to be getting upset about. They probably think it would be better for you and your new dh to have some alone time. Also, they are just making the most of having to spend a lot of money and time travelling abroad so have booked the trip as a group while together. Just focus on enjoying the wedding and having a lovely bit of time for just the two of you afterwards.

Maybe they told your husband and he told them you were going away with your family?

Let them go on a family holiday and you and DH should book a separate honeymoon to a different destination just the two of you :)

It's weird they said no and then booked the same place. Did they know you were going there?

Surely the outcome is the same though?

Yeh it's weird behaviour from them. Sounds like best to keep your distance from them: they sound complicated and not worth your energy.

You said in your OP that you have a tricky relationship with your SIL, so I’d call this a lucky escape

I don't get it, you've avoided a holiday with in laws you don't particularly like, why aren't you happy?