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Neighbour has removed part of shared fence

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Yunner · 23/06/2023 16:47

We've moved in to a new build, and share a strip of grass between the droved, followed by a path, leading to a section of section of fence with our neighbours. The path runs between the walls of our houses and the two garden gates are attached to the respective houses and joined by a fence to hold them up and enclose the garden.

To redo their garden, they have put a skip on their own drive, dismantled their gate for access and laid this on the shared grass with a wheelbarrow, let the workmen trample dirt and sand along not just the shared path, but across our drive while we've been out, and the fence that joins the two gates is missing.

Someone has been into our garden to unscrew this, as there were footsteps in the flowerbed, and you can now see straight into our back garden from the front, between the houses.

They've avoided saying hi to us when we've gone out for the last few days, so haven't had a chance to even acknowledge the project or ask when the fence might go back or the clean up can begin.

AIBU to think they could have asked if we minded the fence panel coming down or let us know it'd had to, to get the mini digger thing in?

On one hand, access is tricky and we'd have needed them on side if we wanted to the same, but the difference is, we wouldn't allow someone to do that without worrying that it wasn't solely ours!

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DustyLee123 · 23/06/2023 16:49

yes, they should have warned you, but it’s been a couple of days and you’ve not said anything. You had your chance to ask.

Yunner · 23/06/2023 16:56

I just said I haven't had a chance to ask. I've been at work while it's been going on, they've rushed in the front door when we've both happened to be coming or going at the same time and I didn't want to knock on the door as if to accuse them of doing something wrong.

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DemonicCaveMaggot · 23/06/2023 17:02

They had no business sending workmen into your garden without permission and taking down your side of the fence without permission.

Just go around and politely ask when the fence will be going back up, and that the workmen need to clean up your drive as part of their finishing up. You are not accusing them of anything and I wouldn't act angrily (as you have to live next to these people for years probably) you just want to know when your property will be made good.

I don't know what they were thinking. I am in a new build with a similar fence set up. We absolutely told our neighbours when we were changing things to make sure they were OK with it. When they painted their fence they let us know to make sure we were fine with their chosen colour. It's just sensible to be on good terms with the people next door. I am sorry your neighbours are silly.

Soontobe60 · 23/06/2023 17:07

Er, where’s the diagram!

Caroparo52 · 24/06/2023 23:02

Keep rhe peace but be firm...yanbu

lanthanum · 24/06/2023 23:17

Knock on the door and ask very politely if they've seen your tortoise, which was in the garden...
They need to realise that it is not on to do things without talking to you at all.

FeigningConcern · 25/06/2023 01:59

Of course you should have knocked on their door! Knocking on someone's door is not a sign of aggression or accusation!

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