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Original poster

To be annoyed at my friend for liking my ex’s and gf’s insta posts?

51 replies

Graype · 23/06/2023 16:25

I split up with my boyfriend at the end of April because he wasn’t respecting me as a person or my decisions and I haven’t spoken to him much since but I still have him and his new girlfriend on Instagram but I never like their posts.

My best friend however keeps liking their posts and stories and starting to bother me as she’s my friend and expect her to be loyal to me. I don’t want to say anything and cause drama but if she carries on I might have to ask her where her loyalties lie. Would you be annoyed at this or AIBU?

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LongTimeListener1 · 23/06/2023 16:31

Yes you’re being unreasonable, grow up. And why are you looking at your ex and his gf’s Instagram anyway?

readbooksdrinktea · 23/06/2023 16:33

She's your friend but her own person. YABU.

Original poster
Graype · 23/06/2023 16:33

@LongTimeListener1 They come up on my feed as I follow them and notice her liking them.

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datesllu23 · 23/06/2023 16:33

YABU. Unless you're 14 in which case par for the course.

LongTimeListener1 · 23/06/2023 16:34

Well be an adult and ignore them.

BillieShears · 23/06/2023 16:34

This can't be real 😂

TheNameIsDickDarlington · 23/06/2023 16:35

It might be best for you to unfollow them so you don't have to see anything of theirs.

Your friend is her own person and can do whatever she likes, however I do understand it feels a bit like a betrayal. We're you all friends? Or did she only know them through you? I think that does make a big difference.

Coyoacan · 23/06/2023 16:36

Life is too short for us all to fall out with everyone our friends fall out with

Redglitter · 23/06/2023 16:37

Block your ex then you won't see anything she likes.

Original poster
Graype · 23/06/2023 16:37

@TheNameIsDickDarlington We go to college together so we all know each other but they were not friends with her, just acquaintances.

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Sunnyfeelgood · 23/06/2023 16:38

Oh I think this depends. I got married and my husband cheated 9n me with someone, ran off with her and my bridesmaid used to like their social media content and that very much stung.

But I think if you broke up with him, there was no huge drama or long term relationship.... does it really matter? I said YANBU because I can understand why it would sting. But that doesn't mean you should try to control her behaviour. If she sat with you sobbing for months then it would be a different story.

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 23/06/2023 16:38

Either unfollow your ex and his new gf (why are you friends with her anyways?) or don't be so controlling over your best friend.

Maybe she liked your ex as a person and is genuinely happy for him so showing 'support' by liking his posts. Maybe she's a serial 'liker' (I know loads of people who just sit and like every post so they get more likes on theirs). Maybe she secretly thinks the new gf is a better match for him anyways. Maybe the new gf is also a friend of hers.
Loads of maybes....

Fandabedodgy · 23/06/2023 16:42

If you are still at high school this is standard.

If you are a grown up then it's time to become one.

ProfessorXtra · 23/06/2023 16:48

You don’t need to follow someone because they go to college with you. But you follow them, your friend follows them. Why follow if you are only doing it to stalk and begrudge someone liking their post? Why follow them at all if you refuse to like anything they are posting.

I am going to assume you are aged 16-18. My dd is a little bit older than you, so I have been through this sort of thing in recent years. I can promise that in as little as 2 years you will look back at this and cringe at being upset over it.

Its really not a big deal.

yellowsmileyface · 23/06/2023 16:49

I might have to ask her where her loyalties lie.

Calm down Tony Soprano.

I see you all know each other through college, so I assume you're quite young? Honestly, all of this social media politics does all sound very immature.

If you bring this up with your friend, you're just going to come across controlling and possessive, and potentially end up losing a friend.

I think you need to unfollow ex and his gf as this clearly isn't healthy for you.

readbooksdrinktea · 23/06/2023 16:52

I might have to ask her where her loyalties lie.

So dramatic.

KrisAkabusi · 23/06/2023 16:52

Delete your ex and his girlfriend from your instagram. They have nothing to do with you, and who or what your friend likes also has nothing to do with you.

emmetgirl · 23/06/2023 16:53

Are you 13?

Youknowaboutthepaint · 23/06/2023 16:54

Why are you following you ex's feed?

I can't imagine even noticing who's liked what.

JorisBonson · 23/06/2023 16:55

Haven't you any homework to do?

yogasaurus · 23/06/2023 16:56

readbooksdrinktea · 23/06/2023 16:52

I might have to ask her where her loyalties lie.

So dramatic.

🤣

OP might not like the answer

Original poster
Graype · 23/06/2023 16:58

@emmetgirl @ProfessorXtra I’m 20 (we all are except his gf who is 18).

If I unfollow them, I won’t be able to see if she’s been liking them. How am I dramatic? She my friend and obviously shipping those two instead of supporting me.

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datesllu23 · 23/06/2023 16:59

🤣

lieselotte · 23/06/2023 17:00

OP I don't really want to pile on, but the others are right.

GrannieD · 23/06/2023 17:02

School hols have started early