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To think that the school are powerless to solve this? Parking related

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LeevMarie · 23/06/2023 10:01

Hi everyone - just wondering if this is the same everywhere in the country, or if your DC's school have managed to solve this problem.

DS (almost 5) was nearly run over this morning outside school. The school is at the bottom of a narrow lane with no car parking. We were crossing the road direct outside the entrance and he was on his scooter. I try and instill the importance of road safety, so I make him stand on the pavement, looking around for cars until I though it was safe to cross. We stepped out behind a car parked on double yellow lines on the pavement (the whole pavement is back to back with cars, so no alternative) and out of nowhere came a huge vehicle which resulted in a near miss. I shouted at the driver of the car (not ideal, but I got a shock).

When I was leaving the school, there was a stream of cars and I found it difficult as an adult to navigate my way across the road - kids have no chance.

The school are really trying to resolve the issue. They often send out emails/letters, have a sign on the gate saying that cars should not be driving down to the entrance and even have had a traffic warden on occasions to give out fines. Yet, still, inconsiderate people still keep driving down there.

I don't think there's anything more the school can do about it and fear that things will only change when there's an accident. I've emailed the Headteacher this morning to let her know that there was a near-accident, but also that I appreciate the steps they're taking to try and stop it.

Does everywhere have this problem? Are there any examples anyone has of their school successfully solved a similar issue? There is lots of parking available nearby - I can't help but think it's just lazy, entitled people who think that they have some kind of licence to do whatever they want.

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elderflowerandpomelo · 23/06/2023 12:21

We have a School Street. It’s WONDERFUL. If you’re on a no through rd it will be easy to create and transformational. Lobby! I got the school to request one - it took a while but it’s so so so good.

IfYouDontAsk · 23/06/2023 12:22

I think the most effective deterrent I’ve seen is the “don’t park here” signs with children on them that PP have linked to above. A school near me puts them actually on the road rather than the pavement so that parents can’t stop there even momentarily. Might your PTA fundraise for these?

Bromptotoo · 23/06/2023 12:23

Dotjones · 23/06/2023 11:22

I'm glad someone else said this, I was going to say a very similar thing. You have set a bad example by teaching your child it's OK to cross the road between parked cars. If there genuinely is no way of crossing the road (like walking a few hundred yards to a place without parked cars) it's your responsibility to check that there aren't any cars coming. Vehicles don't come "out of nowhere" - they come from round the corner, out of a junction and so on. Don't cross the road where you can't safely see. Maybe he was speeding but as a pedestrian you need to take into account that drivers might speed, be distracted or just be plain incompetent.

If it's anything like round here then crossing between parked cars is pretty much unavoidable. The trick is to learn/teach how to do it properly but even then people driving way too fast with minimal clearance from parked cars are a threat.

My kids were walking to school together from around 10 & 8 which, in a semi rural commuter village should be OK, and were nearly wiped out while crossing a road with nose/tail parked cars for its entire length.

Tessasanderson · 23/06/2023 12:28

The trouble is you are asking for them to have common sense when parking. Unfortunately with school run parents common sense goes out the window. There was a thread yesterday about a woman parking outside a house on the school road. Whilst what she was doing wasnt illegal, no other person other than me asked the question whether it was possible to be parked legally but still causing an access issue. Maybe it turned the road into a chicane. Maybe it meant emergency vehicles couldnt fit or maybe, like in your case, it could cause a blind spot. All the MN members replied if you are parked legally carry on.

It should not just be a case of parking legally. It should be a case of parking safely for everyone.

scrivette · 23/06/2023 12:28

Stepping out between parked cars is possibly the only place to cross along the road.

Our school sounds similar, a dead end road and parents parking as close as possible to the school entrances. I have had several near misses with cars reversing onto the pavement and almost hitting the pram as they don't look properly.

The Council have now turned the road into a School Street which has partially solved the issues. However the area just before the signs closing off the road parents turn dangerously and stop randomly in the middle of the road to get as close as possible to the school entrance. There are often traffic police there to monitor it.

Forestfriendlygarden · 23/06/2023 12:31

GMH1974 · 23/06/2023 10:32

A couple of the schools near us which are off the same busy road have lollipop ladies. Could you try speaking to the council?

We nearly lost ours at primary due to funding cuts. But then an insurance company stepped forward to pay. Ladies or Gentlemen of course.

HoppingPavlova · 23/06/2023 12:32

All of our schools have Lollipop people and an ‘official’ Lollipop crossing. No cars allowed to be parked/standing within x meters of the Lollipop crossing. If the Lollipop person believes there is the need they put in some sort of request and a Lollipop supervisor comes out and if they agree they request police presence, who do so and then everyone behaves for a few months then it rinses and repeats.

mumda · 23/06/2023 12:46

I did wonder if councils should do an analysis of how far kids travel to school.

longtompot · 23/06/2023 12:52

A school in my area has only one road up to it and it has taken to closing that road between the times school drop off and then again when it's pick up time. They have had police patrols who have issued fines.
Other schools have had double yellow lines painted outside them with no drop off directly outside the school. They also had patrols of parking wardens who have issued fines.
Parents who drop their kids off are so blinkered to the dangers of other kids also trying to get to school safely. I think the school has to step in and be proactive about this. I wonder if contacting the governor's would be worth doing?

neverenoughchelseaboots · 23/06/2023 12:58

CwmYoy · 23/06/2023 10:16

At a school near here a governor takes photos of illegally parked cars and forwards them to the police who issue fines.

Works like a charm.

Our teacher governor parks on the zigzags! It makes my blood boil.

He told DH he doesn’t have time to walk yet
he lives on our street and we walk but beat him back every day.

avocadotofu · 23/06/2023 13:01

Popsicle42 · 23/06/2023 10:06

I think speaking to the local council is your best bet. In our local area we have something the council has introduced called “school streets”. It means certain sections of roads can be closed at school drop off and pick up times. Our school is currently applying because like yours, despite constant messaging from the school, a number of selfish, entitled parents feel they have the right to drop their previous darlings right at the doors to school, despite there bring ample parking on neighbouring roads.

We have this where I teach and it's made a big difference at drop off and pick up. Its worth contacting your council.

Cindan · 23/06/2023 13:23

Our school has a drop off and pick up lane put in over Covid. The playground extended over 2 residential streets so they were able to take out a strip and make it entry one street exit another. It is WONDERFUL and a huge success with parents and residents. Oviousky depends on the school site though.

MoonSea · 23/06/2023 13:32

My local authority has a webpage where you can report illegally parked cars? Might help a little? I use it sometimes when the pavement is blocked.

Coka · 23/06/2023 13:45

The roads around our school become a no drive zone during drop off and pick up times.. i think most of the schools in my town have it. It works great. Every now and then police will come and monitor to make sure everyone is following the rule

thespy · 23/06/2023 15:28

Posters drawn by kids about road safety and selfish parking prominently displayed is another thing my DCs school did alongside cones, traffic wardens, members of staff confronting parents...

Another school I know has very graphic "you could kill a child" type posters on billboards displayed outside the school gates at pick up / drop off to try and deter people who think the rules don't apply to them..

I actually find it quite shocking to see who the culprits are sometimes - an acquaintance of mine used to consistently park her massive Volvo right on a corner with a double yellow where kids and parents needed to cross the road. Impossible to see over or around it. Just incredibly selfish and dangerous. It is an awkward site but just park further away like a responsible human and walk to meet them, like most other people! (No disabilities hidden or otherwise so no reason apart from not wanting to, because it's "only for a minute 😤).

fishonabicycle · 23/06/2023 15:30

We had very similar at my old house - we lived down a narrow, short cul de sac with a primary school at the end. Most parents took notice of the school asking them not to drive up the road, but there was always a core of entitled twats who thought their needs trumped everyone else's.

Sigmama · 23/06/2023 15:32

The School streets scheme is the way forward

Sigmama · 23/06/2023 15:36

And to answer the qyestion in your title -no the school are not powerless, as they need to apply for a school street to be set up

CoffeeWithCheese · 23/06/2023 15:39

Teaching how to cross when the road is full of parked cars is something worth doing and under your control though - I’ve made a point with my kids of teaching them to carefully walk to the outer edge of the line of cars and use that almost as a kerb line to look and listen from - as they would stand back on the pavement and not be able to see shit!

We moved and one reason was that any parking measures for a primary near us just moved the bother - from a school car park drop off zone that they decided they wouldn’t use anymore - onto a T-junction at the brow of a hill which is just a total RTA in waiting and we just had had enough of the (admittedly amusing at times - like the school dad who kicked off at the local bowling club daring to use their own car park) chaos

LlynTegid · 23/06/2023 15:42

@Tessasanderson when behind the wheel for at least 25% of drivers, any common sense or reasonable behaviour goes out of the window. If it existed to begin with.

Youknowaboutthepaint · 23/06/2023 16:04

The school outside my house is just like this, but there is a pedestrian crossing that is mostly respected.

Lots of families don't walk the extra few yards to use it though...

School streets are a great idea IMO. They might also encourage less car use, if you still have to walk the last bit.

What do they do to enforce it? I.e. how are cars kept out in those hours?

VDisappointing · 23/06/2023 16:04

Cars can't see children coming from behind parked cars - they are too short. No way should he be scooting infront of you - make him get off and hold his hand.

Youknowaboutthepaint · 23/06/2023 16:07

The situation outside schools is ridiculous but no one should be scooting across a road in any circumstance.

namechanger563 · 23/06/2023 16:29

Our school is at the end of a narrow residential street with houses built before cars. No driveways and most of the street is full with residents parking. Then school parents have been trying to take the only 2-3 spaces or parking at the top on zig zags, blocking junctions and the bus stop.

It has taken probably about 10 years of working with the local council and residents but last year the school got permission to trial closing the street between 8.30am - 9.15 and 2.45pm t
-4pm. The put manual barriers up with cones and had someone staff it every day to let residents and disabled parents access the road. This worked and funding has been approved now to make it permanent and managed via traffic cameras with a fine. Residents can register their registration number and so can disabled parents. I think it's the only solution.

SquigglePigs · 23/06/2023 16:35

The primary school DD is going to has an agreement with a pub just down the road for parents to use the car park and pick up and drop off. It's quiet times for them and a nice community gesture. Obviously doesn't fix everything but it works well and reduces traffic on the two residential streets either side of the school.

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