Bitchy manager aibu

[canyoudance]

I can feel bitchiness from my manager at work.

Everything I say in casual conversation she's like, "not just that". Or, if I announce that I'm going on holiday she'll say "I don't like where you're going."

I was out of office on duties yesterday and she's opened my drawer and stuffed biscuits I had on my desk in my drawer - she told a colleague she was sick of seeing them on my desk.

Everything I do she has some remark or criticism to share.

I feel like she hates me but I'm kind to her everyday. And do nothing but support her.

I know it's petty but these things add up.

She sounds very irratating.

I would look for a new job to be honest, how long have you been there?

1 year

I’d start a diary of events/things she’s said. Do you feel like you could ask her outright if she had an issue with you and give examples of times she’s upset you? This may be enough to stop her. If this continues then go above her and present your diary. You could also note down witnesses in it.

I think I would start to make a note of things she does and says just to keep a record for if it escalates. I probably would be inclined to politely ask her “if there’s an issue with you because you’ve noticed she’s been quite short with you lately and that you hope you haven’t done anything to upset her”

It’ll either shock her and make her stop because she has realised she’s being rude and obvious or… if she’s a nasty person then it’ll just carry on and then you can carry on keeping a record and then maybe raise it as a grievance a little down the line. I’d just keep being polite and friendly and doing what you need to do though as that’ll annoy her more 😂

What does "not just that" mean? Not just what?
The holiday thing doesn't sound offensive.
I'm with her on the food out on the desk.

I don't understand what 'not just that' means.

if I announce that I'm going on holiday she'll say "I don't like where you're going."

How many holidays can you have taken for her to say this? It doesn't sound directed at you anyway, more the location.

💯 re the biscuits, our office wouldn't allow food on the desk either and all she did was put them in your drawer.

She may well be doing other stuff that's unacceptable but you haven't detailed it here.

Based purely on what you have written she doesn’t sound awful, but there may be a lot more.
I don’t understand the “not just that” comment but as for saying she doesn’t like where you are going on holiday I just wouldn’t even respond to that.
You say she “stuffed” the biscuits in your drawer, your language reflects your dislike of her which may be justified but nothing in your post suggests it is

The person in question needs some training in basic management. You do not criticise someone, who is not present, in front of other members of the team. That sort of snide comment will not take long to bring about a poor workplace culture. There is not a lot you can do about it but I would be seriously questioning whether I wanted to work for this person any longer.