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Afros - in or out?

84 replies

TheWorldIsRound · 23/06/2023 08:24

I’m off to see ABBA Voyage next weekend.the venue have sent some information, including the following “Please do not wear so-called ‘Afro’ wigsThese wigs are culturally insensitive and not appropriate to be worn as fancy dress. If any guests are wearing this style of wig they will be respectfully asked to remove them as a condition of entry to the arena.”I had no idea that Afro wigs were considered culturally insensitive. For my 30th birthday I had a 70s themed party and wore an afro wig (it was the same colour as my own hair - gingery brown - not black, if that makes any difference). Did I mess up?Do others agree with the venue’s views - particularly anyone who may have their own natural afro (or potential to to grow one). Is it really regarded as akin to “black face”?Obviously if something causes widespread offence, I would not dream of doing it, but all I thought I was doing was paying tribute to one of the ultimate symbols of iconic 70s style.Can people only pay tribute to their own cultural grouping and to move outside of that is manifestly offensive ?YABU: everyone knows afro wigs are deeply offensive YANBU: it’s hyper-sensitivity on the part of the venue

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EbonyRaven · 23/06/2023 13:09
Hmm
LondonPete · 23/06/2023 13:24

I have an afro and they don't offend me.

Sweetsweetlike1 · 23/06/2023 13:29

PTSDBarbiegirl · 23/06/2023 12:25

Is it culturally insensitive for black people to wear straight hair wigs in blonde, red or any colour other than black? I see your point about bubble perms on white people's heads but why is it seen as acceptable for ethnic minorities or any other group to dictate what another ethnic group or community can/can't wear. I don't care if black people wear their hair in an afro or have a straight wig on but please feck off telling others what is 'appropriate' to wear.

I don't know that in any part of history 'non black people' have had to blacken their appearance or make their hair 'more afro' in order to gain acceptance. But many black people have had to change their appearance to gain acceptance.
Some of these styles have been done as, some for gaining acceptance and a whole bunch of other reasons probably. So it's not all black and white as your trying to make it

Sweetsweetlike1 · 23/06/2023 13:32

Sorry missed out a word in my previous post...meant to say...some styles or appropriation are done as 'ridicule', and others it's been for 'acceptance'

Inc0gn1to · 23/06/2023 14:33

I completely agree that Afro hair should not be mocked or appropriated.

I'm a bit confused about the extent of the ban though. Will it be all curly wigs of all colours?! It seems a bit insulting to those of Afro-Caribbean heritage to suggest those coloured nylon things have anything to do with their hair.

Also if you Google 'Anni-Frid curly hair' are any of those hairstyles not appropriate? What if you honestly want to look like a member of Abba? It is just mimicking actual Afro hair that is a problem?

(Not being goady, genuinely want to understand the rules and hear the thoughts of those with Afro hair.)

AngelasAirpods · 23/06/2023 16:09

SocksAndTheCity · 23/06/2023 13:07

No, the venue is purpose built for the ABBA Voyage show.

I have a ticket too and received the same email - I was amazed anybody would need to be told, tbh.

Got it and yes agreed! Thank you

bonfirebash · 23/06/2023 16:14

Yeah it's inappropriate
My experiences are not the same but I've been told my natural hair is messy/frizzy/needs sorting, people ask to touch it, my uncle wears his cropped after comments when he was younger about it (he has very tight coils) and so did my cousin
I have to pay extra for a specialist hairdresser and bizarrely it's not a requirement for hairdressers to study/train in curly or coily hair so most of them can't cut it Angry

YoungerYears · 23/06/2023 16:16

Simianwalk · 23/06/2023 08:48

Nah they're really not. Only if they are using an unnecessary stereotype. It was always people that go on about how easily offended people are that are the most touchy and froth up at everything.
"Oh no I can't say Christmas" "yes you can" 'no, I read it in the Daily Mail/Mirror it's true .."

Agree with every word of this.

IDontWantToBeAPie · 23/06/2023 16:25

I suppose wearing someone's natural hair texture as a 'silly' costume is quite rude.

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