27 year old son still at home, unemployed, alcoholic

[MumOfOlderKids]

My some moved back home a year ago after being fired from several jobs and unable to afford his rent. For months he appeared to be trying to get himself back on track and find a new job but for the last six months, he has
been going out and getting so drunk he can barely walk. We have argued so much- he has a history of depression and constantly threatens to KHS. When he is not drunk, he is rude and unkind to me but pleasant to my DH. He is claiming government handouts. My DH and I gave him an ultimatum to go to the doctors for his depression which he did. He takes the tablets and then drinks himself to oblivion. DH and I are at breaking point. I do not know my son anymore. Son has nowhere else to go but I want him to go.

@DriftingDora id assume from the benefits he’s getting according to OP.

So sorry OP. Must be so so hard on you and DH.

Kick him out he’s 27 - I did it and my son has improved massively but it was a long & hard road - you deserve a life - it really pisses me off when people who have absolutely no clue how difficult children can be seem to think that limitless support is the answer.

You can support from afar.

So benefits pay you enough to supply yourself with drink and drugs and getting so drunk he can (quote): 'barely walk'? I don't think so. He's getting additional money from another source, the question is where? And if he's living at home, he should be contributing to his keep. Allowing him to keep any benefits money isn't doing him any favours, either - more to spend on drink and drugs.

Get him to read and watch Jordan Peterson.

This. There's a point where 'help and support' can become enabling. This may not be deliberately done, but it doesn't help the person and effectively wrecks the lives of those around them, thus compounding the problem.

I wonder whether its worth contacting your local drug and alcohol service. Most of them have "concerned other" specialist support and will be able to advise you.