My youngest DD is 4 next month, we are hosting a house/garden party for her nursery friends. I sent the invites out on Monday.
Today one of the mums stopped me at pick up, she has twins who are in my daughters room and another pair of twins in the 2 year room. They are new to town (Easter), she has twins who are similar age to my daughter who are starting school with her in September, another set of twins who must be coming up on 3 pretty soon, a daughter who must be just a year younger than them and a 9/10 month old. I believe she is a single mum, but other than the odd chat while waiting for the kids to come out I don’t know her well.
Well today she said thanks for the invite but we won’t be able to come. I’d only invited the twins who are in my daughters class. She explained that she won’t have childcare for the others. I told her I’d get back to her if we had space and she said she’d be grateful but understands if I can’t. I asked for her number and she gave me it.
I got home and spoke to my husband and he says we can’t allow 4 sisters who aren’t invited to come without others being annoyed that they can’t bring their other kids.
I feel bad but I know he’s right, if it was one kid or they were all babies I wouldn’t mind but the almost 2 year old and almost 3 year olds would no doubt want to join in with everything and once I’ve said yes to them, what do I do if another parent asks if they can bring their other kids, our garden isn’t massive. We’ve invited about 24 kids all together already.
I feel so bad that these little girls will miss out but I don’t know what to do.
AIBU cruel not making space for them? I feel awful