Someone complained about my child at sports day!

[SackRaceComplainer]

DC is 8, Y4. Has SN including dyspraxia.

For sports day every child has to take part. DC has some adjustments for sports day so they can fully take part.

Even with their adjustments they still come last in every race.

Someone has complained about the sack race and how my DC had an unfair advantage. DC started roughly half way along the track in their sack, had help to get in from staff (which the others didn’t) and then was picked up when they fell over while doing it whereas the others had to get themselves to their feet, DC had insisted they wanted to do this race – they were told they did not have to do it.

DC still came last and finished about 2 minutes after the other children they were racing. DC also fell through the finish ribbon thing onto the grass and had to be helped out.

And someones complained to the Governors about DC starting in a different place and that giving them an unfair advantage even though my child came last. Apparently starting half way along the track was an advantage.

Apparently it was taken straight to the governors, and I was informed as I was asked by the HT if she could share with the governors why DC started where they did because it’ll help the governors to decide if it’s an Reasonable Adjustment for DCs condition or whether in future all children start in the same place - I was just picking DC up for an appointment and was told this. HT says she doesn't agree it was an advantage.

My DC struggles enough as it is, just being upright is hard for them and now someone is complaining. DC was thrilled to even finish the sack race, they don’t care where they placed! The person who complained as a child in my DCs class – as it's been mentioned by name on the class whatsapp, and they’ve been together since Reception so said parent will have a fairly good idea of why DC started where they did.

Whats likely to happen now anyone know?

Some people don't have a clue, OP, they really don't. They have embarrassed themselves by bringing this up.
Don't pay any heed to this. Keep doing what you're doing and well done to your DC.

Nothing will happen apart from this stupid sick fucker having exposed him/herself as a total twat. A bonus really.

This is really lovely. That parent, Jesus fucking Christ there are no words. How awful a human being ti they have to be. So well done on raising such a lovely child that they are happy to finish. I hope the board of governors let rip. Unfortunately parents like that will raise their kids that start off lovely to also be bastards, until they make their own way in the world and hopefully see their own shit upbringing.
But fuck me that’s awful.

On a more light-hearted note, the year an older SISTER won the Mum's race there was outrage! There was mutterings of "tell the Governors".

OMG I can’t believe what I just read. It was sports day. A day where they all race, have fun and hopefully get a few stickers and some ice cream. In reception My daughter ran the three legged race with a girl half her size, the tie inevitably broke so they ran half the race and won it! Unfair…yep, did anyone care? Nope! Other children missed half of the obstacle course. The wind blew all the foam javelins backwards. They all did about 5 events each so lots of stickers and fun. Who on earth would have complained about that? I would honestly tell the governors to go stick it if they think this is worth their time!

Lol. Some people clearly need to find a hobby or something!!

Jesus what the fuck is wrong with some people. Your poor DC.

Absolutely ridiculous from the Head who should have stopped this nonsense. It’s nothing to do with governors who are strategic not operational. Sounds like a weak head and if governors get involved, a Chair not understanding their role. Absurd.

This 100%!!

I would be posting my own “ omg you are not going to believe this, but someone …..” on the class WhatsApp and watching the reporting parent squirm next time you meet in the playground

Hopefully the governors will send a withering response to the complainer. If it came to the board I am a governor on I would be volunteering to write the letter and the person complaining would be left in no doubt of their unreasonableness.

I hope they see this post and realise what a terrible human being they are.

At our school the year 6 children all linked hands with a child with SEN so they all crossed the line together at the same time. It was an absolutely beautiful thing to see (and of their own volition).

I am absolutely disgusted by this parent. I hope the governors are absolutely cutting in their response. I think I would also try to draw them out on the WhatsApp group so they truly expose just how dreadful they are to all and sundry. I couldn't forgive or forget this.

Ugh, I really despise people sometimes. Why ?!!! Well done to your DC for completing the race. X

The parent needs to be told that they are a discriminatory person and that it is unacceptable. My son had similar when he was at school (we now home Ed) and a few parents got a well deserved spray from me.

Tbf we also had parents complain that my sons chair had arms so he didn’t fall off it or head butt the table, that he had ear defenders and that he used a pen not the pencil that he was unable to use. That he got an award for something that most children can do at two that he managed to do at five. A few other things too.
These parents are the worse and sadly their attitudes will probably pass down to their kids and they’ll be equally unpleasant as an adult.

Something like this happened about 13 years ago when my DGD2 was 6 at the school sports day she had a friend who had cerebal palsy who found running a bit hard but always wanted to participate in everything DGD2 was and still is very athletic and won her class race easily whilst her little friend struggled DGD2 then back along the side and went to her little friend held her hand and talked to her and helped her to finish to lots of cheers from most people and a few tears. There was one parent who did complain to the headteacher that the little girl put off her little princess and she didn't win she wasn't best pleased when the headteacher in polite terms told her that she found the complaint was in rather bad taste the next week DGD2 was made class pupil of the week for showing kindness to others. DD had forgotten about it till last week when who should walk into her pharmacy was the mother and her little princess (DD recognised the name) princess is 9 month pregnant and the father of the baby is having a little holiday courtesy of His Majesty according to one of the assistants whose DGM lives next to them. DGD2 still sees from time to time her little friend who has done really well for herself despite her disability.

I think it was pretty despicable of this parent to complain about your DC, especially considering they still came last, however and I'm just playing devils advocate here, what if your DC had actually won the race? What about the child who then comes second? I'm not saying it's right but I can see why that child and their parent might be a bit pissed off.

There speaks a parents who has not got a child with dcd/dyspraxia.

I’m a teacher.

This week a parent told me over the phone that I was a useless piece of shit, she’s going to track me down and rip my fucking head off……..

All because I won’t buy her son a specific £10 pen out of my own money!
I was kind and said there is no budget left to buy students pens but I do buy pens with my own money but they’re biros because I cannot afford to spend anymore money and not even my own DD has an expensive pen.
Whats worse is one time I did buy him the right pen as he was using it as an excuse to not to do work and he told me to go fuck my self and snapped it in half and then stood on it.

Some parents are just entitled dicks.
Unfortunately, it often rubs off on their kids too.

I would be very tempted to put a message on the schools Facebook page and say how you can’t believe someone would complain about such a thing when it was obvious that your son needed that extra help.
Equal rights does not mean everyone is treated exactly the same.

This! At the school I used to teach in (no longer a teacher), my head and the chair of governors would've told the parent to do one (in a more polite manner!). The parent would have been the talk of the staffroom for being an utter cunt.

They mentioned it on the class WhatsApp?! That’s so embarrassing for them, I bet everyone was rolling their eyes when they saw it.

Some people are just dickheads OP, I would try to give it as little thought as possible.

Try not to let it upset you.
What this person has achieved with her complaint is that the HT now thinks she's and idiot. The governors think she is an idiot. Everyone on the whatsapp group thinks she's an idiot (even if they don't say it due to fear of her batshittery).

School should just reply that they reserve the right to make reasonable adjustments for individual children to help them overcome disadvantages they would otherwise face.

What a sad and mad soul the complainer is.

How could the school have her back if they went straight to the governors who do not have the details?

The HT who has the details agrees it’s ridiculous and asked for permission to share the details with the governors so HT has done the right thing to ask her first.