Mum's hubby kisses son too much

[Kayx28]

As the title says my mum's husband who my son(2 y/o) calls grandad (they've been together for years) kisses my son way too much. Mostly on his cheeks but sometimes on his lips (which bothers me) I didn't really say anything at first because I know he loves him like he's his real grandad but it's just getting abit too much now, even I don't kiss my son that much and I love him more than anyone else that's how much he kisses him! And always asks him for kisses, I need to say something but I just don't know how/what to say without upsetting? my mums husband or making him feel embarrassed. It bothers me alot...
Thanks in advance ladies :)

You could teach your child to high five or fist pump instead.

It's what mine are encouraged to do if they don't want a kiss, high five or a fist pump seems to give them another option without that direct contact and no one being offended.

I told my family that we weren’t going to encourage ours to kiss or hug anyone on demand and let them set their own boundaries, if they wanted to show their affection to anyone they could but we don’t allow them to be coerced into it for obvious safeguarding reasons. Anyone reasonable won’t have a problem with it.

You need to say something with out being aggressive, if dm gets defensive or cries [a good stand by] that's her problem. Ds is your child and if you aren't comfortable, you are your ds's first line of protection.

I have never kissed my children on the lips. Certainly my parents would never have done it. I know families who do but it seems very odd to me as I associate that with a romantic relationship. I'd be worried about passing on viruses and cold sores and who knows what. I'd just tell him that you're uncomfortable with kissing small children on the lips. I'd have said that to either of my sons' grandfathers or even his step grandfather but I have to say that they weren't kissing small children on the lips sort of people.

Weird boundary busting behaviour.

I think the fist bumping sounds good. If they don't like it, tough shit.

Why didn't you speak up earlier - it would have been really easy - sorry we don't kiss on the lips - herpes.

I find kissing children on the lips super weird personally, maybe just mention that you are teaching him bodily boundaries etc and that you would prefer fist bumps or high fives.... hugs on the childs terms but definitely no kissing from anyone other than parents

Could either sit them down and have a more direct convo or bring it up in chat and make it a bit more light hearted but still serious- whichever you think would hit home a bit more

why Is it weird to kiss your child on the lips 🤔 Grandparents perhaps a bit odd, but parents? That’s not weird!

Ooh yuk, OP - that's awful.

I don't know why anyone (other than parents) has to go and slobber over children. I hated it as a child from more distant visiting relatives - really, really dreaded it.

What are these people thinking? Why do they imagine small children like the disgusting sensation of flabby wet lips on their flesh?

Don’t worry about causing upset! Your role is to protect your son, if other people don’t like it that is their problem, not yours. It’s fine to just say ‘we aren’t doing kisses any more’ but if you feel you need to explain further then tell them you’re teaching your DS about bodily autonomy and consent.

I’m from a family of kissers, we always have been, it’s never been forced. If someone didn’t want to, or said no the matter isn’t pushed. My BIL hates it and we just high five or head nod.

My brothers who are in their 50s now always give a peck to each other. It’s just how we have always been and absolutely nothing romantic about it, sometimes on the lips, sometimes on the cheek.

Does your son pull away or can you sense he is uncomfortable? Is your mum kissy?

I would just say next time he asks for a kiss now your son is getting a little older that your trying to put some boundaries and teach consent and that if your son wants to give him a kiss he can but could he stop asking for it.