Is it normal to have even a little bit of jealousy?

[tropicalbeat]

Just an interesting convo I had with my DP earlier. My friend is going travelling for 5 months, without her DP.

I made a comment like “I’d be so worried if I was in her shoes, what he’d be doing and everything”. My DP said he wouldn’t AT ALL be worried if it was me, he’d trust I wouldn’t be doing anything. He said if there wasn’t 100% trust the relationship wouldn’t work.

I said I feel like there should always be at least a tiny bit of curiosity (or even slight jealousy at making friends with other guys etc) but he just couldn’t understand it.

Am I right?

It wouldn’t have crossed my mind and seems a strange response to a friend going away to do something good. Why did you go there rather than simply being happy for her?

5 months is a long time to go travelling without the partner. I’d assume they weren’t that serious about each other, and if they were young and hadn’t been together very long it might well be the end of the relationship.

Sorry op, No, not for me, it wouldn’t even occur to me to be honest. You either trust or you don’t. Being untrusting and jealous doesn’t stop,someone cheating and is a sign either something is wrong in the relationship or maybe rhe person suffers from underlying issues.

No I wouldn’t be jealous of DH and worried he would cheat. I doubt he would be worried or jealous either

If you think people can’t stay faithful for 5 months, I think that says more about you to be honest.

5 months is not “such a long time”. Don’t tar everyone with your low standards.

3 months after I got married I spent 9 months in the US for work. DH stayed in the UK and came to visit twice for a week each. Not once did I question him or become jealous. It didn’t even occur to me!

I agree with your DH.
My DH is in the navy, and is gone six months or more at a time. If I didn't fully trust him, we wouldn't make it as a military family.

I don’t feel that way, no. I’m quite secure in that my husband would let me know what he was thinking or doing. I’d want him to know I trusted him. You must be quite insecure?