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Putting pictures of other parents teenagers on FB

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SeaSnakes1 · 20/06/2023 22:20

People in my area are posting pics of unruly teenagers (aged about 13 -15) in the area on FB asking if anyone ‘knows them’ as they are trouble makers.

I totally get the frustration and reasoning but surely this is a safeguarding issue? I’m surprised admin allow this?

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DutchCowgirl · 21/06/2023 07:07

Taking the law into your own hands is wrong. Trial by Facebook is wrong.
A friend of mine caused a horrible car-accident and a local newspaper posted pictures with her car recognizable on it. You can’t believe how many hate reactions she has got. It was terrible and it is on the internet forever.

Lately someone in my town walked past a videodoorbell of a house that was burgled. And the house owner mistook him for the burglar and put the camera footage online. So that man is a thief now forever!
We have a justice system for this.

SistersNotCisters · 21/06/2023 07:10

I think you're underestimating the sheer vileness of today's youth. A small group given enough time can easily cause thousands of pounds worth of damage, absolutely terror for some people and generally make people's lives horrendous.
Imagine you're skint. You're working all hours to make ends meet and those local feral youths that have been causing havoc pretty much every evening. People can't sleep. The street is alway covered in glass and then in the morning you find out that it's your car this time that has a scratch running down three panels. Or it's tonight that the stones they're always throwing at houses take your living room window out. You can't afford a repair so you're stuck with a board over it for weeks until you can do something about it.
It's not small inconveniences these "cheeky little scamps" are causing when it's online shaming time. It's often when it's making people lives a misery and we all know the police can't or just don't do a thing. There's no proof and when there is, there's no punishment for what the kids are doing. Or they can't be 100% sure of the kids identity.
Online posting of these absolute feral horrors is usually the only way to get it dealt with. In a small town the parents are well aware it's their kid every night but they'll do F all until they're faced with a good public shaming. It's amazing to see how a parent is magically able to parent their kid under threat of humiliation rather than having "that whinging, nosey old biddy from No.24 come to their door moaning like she always does about their little Archie just hanging out with his mates."

knockyknees · 21/06/2023 08:49

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 20/06/2023 23:28

If they weren't acting feral they wouldn't get posted online.

This, in a nutshell.

If (general) you don't want to be filmed acting in an anti-social way (and then have it posted online), don't act in an anti-sicoal way in the first place! Its really quite simple.

PinkButtercups · 21/06/2023 08:51

I don't think it's such a bad thing.

Happens here. Recently teenagers shoplifted in a local small shop. They put their cctv up and a few people knew who they were. They went back with money to cover the goods and apology note.

Catspyjamas17 · 21/06/2023 08:59

If (general) you don't want to be filmed acting in an anti-social way (and then have it posted online), don't act in an anti-social way in the first place! Its really quite simple.

Until someone wasn't involved is filmed and their name and image is shared all over social media locally.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4378625-falsely-accused-of-crime-on-fb

Falsely accused of crime on FB | Mumsnet

I've put this in legal too but posting here for traffic: I was in a shopping centre on the weekend and had finished my shopping in a popular clothes...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4378625-falsely-accused-of-crime-on-fb

aSofaNearYou · 21/06/2023 09:00

I wouldn't characterise them as "someone else's teenagers". They are teenagers, by that age they are not defined by their parents, they are their own people and in the majority of cases they will have their own social media on which there will regularly be photos or videos posted of them entirely out of their parents control.

9GreenBottles · 21/06/2023 09:11

We’ve had two empty houses next to us ransacked by a group of kids causing, easily, over £100k of damage. The police were called on so many occasions, and caught one or two of the kids more than once. There was one occasion when there was a standoff with the kids on the roof throwing tiles at the police. Was there any further action taken beyond taking them home and telling their parents - not that we ever heard of, and they were back the next night with more of their mates!

It was only after months of trouble that the houses had steel shutters installed and they stopped causing damage.

In a time where there are so few consequences for antisocial behaviour, I think a bit of public shaming is no bad thing. Perhaps parents would be keener to find out where their children are going at night and actually take responsibility for parenting their children. Many of these kids know exactly what they are doing, and wouldn’t hesitate to put footage that would cast shame on you on the internet.

EllaRaines · 21/06/2023 09:11

I couldn't care less about safeguarding, if anyone regardless of age is caught on camera being an utter shit, then their anti social behaviour should be brought to the attention of the community.

Beneficialchampion2 · 21/06/2023 09:53

It's not against the law to take photos of others without consent in a public place.

WallaceinAnderland · 21/06/2023 09:55

That age group are usually proud to upload their anti social behaviour to tik tok so shouldn't have a problem with others doing it too. They need to learn to be accountable.

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