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To quit my job

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chaffinch32456 · 20/06/2023 21:32

DS has SEN. He starts school in Sept. There are induction days and I think it’s highly they’ll ask him start reception part-time.

I work part time. I feel like my line manager is trying to push me out of her area. I’m going to be used ‘as and where needed’ next year. Very vague and today no one knew what I was supposed to be doing when I went in. Current line manager won’t be my line manager in Sept. I don’t know who is.

If DS is part time (this will best suit his needs), I’ll need to change my current work hours in order to pick him up. He’ll also need to go to breakfast club. Working out his induction days around work will be tricky. And I have no idea who to ask about changing my hours or whether it’s ok, as no one know what I’m doing!

I don’t feel valued, wanted or needed at work. However the hours are currently working well, and I don’t work school holidays. The income is fairly significant and things will be tight if I quit. I was called to a meeting last week and thought I was going to be made redundant. However that didn’t happen - I was simply told I’d be working the same hours in Sept. Were they hoping I may chose to quit? Or could they still make me redundant?

I could resign and then look for a new job once DS has hopefully settled in? I feel I need to be around for DS.

Or - should I stick with my job and hopefully things will fall into place??

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chaffinch32456 · 20/06/2023 22:11

He’s one full day and 3 half days at preschool. No probs and he really likes it there. His behaviour is fine, it’s his speech which is very, very delayed.

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underneaththeash · 20/06/2023 22:12

Absolutely, I would. Take a few months off to help him settle in.

WineIsMyMainVice · 20/06/2023 22:14

Beenawhilesinceacupoftea · 20/06/2023 21:34

You are not unreasonable to feel this but I would urge you to consider it very carefully. A well paid part time job is basically gold dust.

Absolutely!!

JackieWeaveristheboss · 20/06/2023 22:14

I think you need to arrange a meeting with his class teacher and SENDCo to discuss his transition. The jump to full time might be too much initially. Would work allow you to work flexibly until he is settled?

FanSpamTastic · 20/06/2023 22:26

Can you take parental leave while you settle him in? It's unpaid and may not be long enough but each parent can take up to 4 weeks in any year.

chaffinch32456 · 20/06/2023 22:38

I think I need to

a) find out if breakfast club can take DS
b) ask if the SEND leader thinks he should attend part time/for how long/whether I can make this full time on the days I work
3) then ask (not sure who!) at my work if I can have some unpaid leave while he starts, change my hours so I can pick him up…and then if it’s a no-go or they DO make me redundant it’s no real issue, as I was considering quitting.

Thank you everyone for your input. Really helped me think it through!

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Hankunamatata · 20/06/2023 22:42

Hi. Been in your situation, they weren't trying to push me out but had no idea how to utilise a part time worker. Its good money and hours that work then I'd stick with it.

Perhaps ask for couple weeks unpaid leave to get dc through start of reception.

PushmePull · 20/06/2023 22:49

Ask for parental leave if you can't get some ad hoc.

You can also insist school take him FT, but I would be inclined not to in your situation.

You'll have ample opportunity over the next few years to give up your job if it's not working out. Hold onto it as long as you can, as long as everyone's MH is intact. Every month the mortgage/rent is paid more easily helps.

TwoBlueFish · 20/06/2023 22:49

Can you book in some unpaid parental leave now for when he starts in September (I think you have to give 21 days notice). If your child gets DLA you can book individual days, if they don’t then it has to be taken in full weeks.

if at all possible don’t leave your job.

chaffinch32456 · 21/06/2023 07:39

@TwoBlueFish

Thank you! I should hear back soon about DLA. So how does that work? I can book individual days as unpaid leave?

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HappyAsASandboy · 21/06/2023 10:20

Parental leave is a statutory entitlement for eligible employees. The government website page explains it well - www.gov.uk/parental-leave

In your position I would hold on to the job as long as you can. Your DS might adapt very well to school; you just don't know yet.

A bigger issue is the situation at work. If it is a well paid position, I would imagine you are supposed to be fairly self-sufficient. Can you speak to people, find out about projects/work that is going on, identify where and how you could contribute, and offer your time/skills to those projects? Kill them with kindness - insert yourself into things by making it hard for them to say no, and the prove yourself useful so they want you in projects again. I suspect that you'll have to turn things around rather than wait for someone to notice you're bored and pass you something to do ....

Yerroblemom1923 · 21/06/2023 10:39

Can't your DP do school runs?

lifehappens12 · 21/06/2023 12:35

Hello. How delayed is his speech? I know it's hard to compare but I have a speech delayed 5 year old who is just finishing reception year and he has coped amazingly! He was able to put a couple of words together starting school and we were still teaching sentences like - boy eats apple. NHS said he had severe speech issues.

He has coped in school and his language has improved so much even in the first few weeks of school.

He has coped but he is not at the same education level as his peers. Struggles with phonics and reading and struggled with coming to the carpet to do learning. But he settled and did full time including after school club from day 1 and it has never been a conversation about part time - only wha they can do to support

chaffinch32456 · 21/06/2023 15:34

Thanks again everyone. It’s been really helpful posting here.

@lifehappens12 DS sounds at a very similar level. He says nouns, seems to understand more than he says - just starting to get simple sentences like ‘come on mummy’. No back and forth conversation. So good to hear that your DS has coped and is doing so well!

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babbscrabbs · 21/06/2023 15:37

Use parental leave to take the part time weeks off while they last.

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