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Was he dating others before we met?

26 replies

ConfusedSally · 19/06/2023 17:13

I was reminicising on old chats between me and my bf.

I noticied that early on, within a week or so, I asked if he had been on any other dates and he said no that he had only chatted to two other people.

I then read on, a month and a bit later, and he said he had only met one other person before me.

I feel a bit annoyed, should I ask him?

OP posts:
Lateliein · 19/06/2023 17:14

?

Maddy70 · 19/06/2023 17:14

Wait you want to interrogate him about dates / messages before you met ? Wow

PragmaticWench · 19/06/2023 17:15

That is obsessive and weird behaviour on your part.

Bouledeneige · 19/06/2023 17:15

I don't understand what you're annoyed about. Are you looking to find things to be angry about? Its the past.

Sauvblanctime · 19/06/2023 17:16

What?

EllaRaines · 19/06/2023 17:16

Raking up the past only leads to misery.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 19/06/2023 17:16

Grow up

PuffinsRocks · 19/06/2023 17:16

Tell me you're a bunny boiler without telling me you're a bunny boiler.

therescoffeeinthatnebula · 19/06/2023 17:16

You're talking about before you met - you're not even talking about casual dates in the beginning before you went exclusive. I think you're expecting too much.

EasterBreak · 19/06/2023 17:17

I can be irrational but that's very irrational

Comedycook · 19/06/2023 17:18

How long have you been together? If this was last month, maybe mention it. If it was years ago, forget about it

WonderfulUsername · 19/06/2023 17:18

How long have you been together?

And by 'reminicising on old chats', do you mean looking to pick a fight?

Monsterjam · 19/06/2023 17:20

Oh…. No don’t ask him. Focus on now

bonzaitree · 19/06/2023 17:45

No! For goodness sake find something else to think about woman.

GoodChat · 19/06/2023 17:48

It's normal to exaggerate or minimise the number of other people you have spoken to, dated etc.

Constantly digging is a sure fire way to make sure there'll be plenty after you.

KateJohns · 19/06/2023 17:52

Tbh until you both agree to be exclusive, you and he could do what you like. He owed you nothing, you owed him nothing.

Put it behind you if you're happy, if you rake it up, unhappiness may follow it.

standardduck · 19/06/2023 17:57

Why would you care about who he met before you?

It makes no sense.

WeeOrcadian · 19/06/2023 18:11

WTF have I just read?

JorisBonson · 19/06/2023 18:11

Single man may have spoken to women shocker!

happinessischocolate · 19/06/2023 18:12

😂😂😂

YeahIsaidit · 19/06/2023 18:43

If it was recently, maybe maybe ask what that was about, but really expecting partners to not have had relationships/flings before you got together and even in the early days before any kind of exclusivity is kinda unreasonable and a bit mad

Shopper727 · 19/06/2023 18:46

So what he’s with you not them? My boyfriend dated a bit before me but I don’t hold it against him

IAmAnIdiot123 · 19/06/2023 18:47

You cant be serious!

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 19/06/2023 18:52

He should run as fast as he can.

LaBefana · 19/06/2023 18:53

If my partner had not dated anyone before me, I would have thought he was weird. And he would have felt the same about me. Are you aged about 13?