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School won’t teach non-swimmers!

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Platypuslover · 19/06/2023 10:02

I don’t think I’m unreasonable just considering how far I may need to take this. Year 6 now lost out on swimming lessons because school is useless head was suspended last year and never returned and this has been a pattern for her from previous school. Not sure why other than incompetence but the grapevine said possibly to do with money. So kids didn’t get swimming lesson as no one thought to arrange them once lock down was relaxed the pools reopened.

They waited until end of year to do 2 session to asses swimming. Told we’d get an email if she can’t swim and will have further session.

No email arrived and I called today. So then was told they don’t take non-swimmers only the children that are confident and can almost swim independently and we have to pay for our own swimming lesson.

So I am expected to pay for someone else’s kids to learn to swim with my very hard earned taxes amidst a cost of living crisis and us barely being able to afford basics and we can not afford the extortionate private lessons.

Bet the letter they said they’d send us to give details to book those lessons are with the same company they use to take them swimming now. This reeks of an extortion ring to me why else would you not take the children that need it most!

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emsie12345 · 19/06/2023 12:52

CornflakesOnTheSolesOfHerShoes · 19/06/2023 11:55

Gosh, it’s so easy to be horrified by someone else’s child not being able to do something that yours either took to easily or that it was logistically straightforward for you to arrange.

Mine are Yr 6 and Yr 5 and only just swimming relatively confidently in the past year. They’ve had years of swimming lessons, initially in a small group and then just the two of them when it was clear they spending most of the time waiting for other people. It was a nightmare to find lessons that worked for us as I don’t drive, there’s no pool local to us accessible by public transport, and DH works weekends. It was also heavily interrupted by Covid, but we made it happen as much as we could. We take them ourselves when we can (tricky to fit in for the same reasons) and have made intensive practice with us a focus of summer holidays. It’s taken FOREVER for either of them to be remotely competent in the water. Some people just find it a much harder skill to master than others. I couldn’t swim till I was 10, and I was at a private school with its own pool plus intensive remedial lessons! I was fine once I’d cracked it.

I’m not saying people should leave it up to school, but the shocked cries of “what do you mean she can’t swim in Yr 6” are unnecessarily judgmental.

Incidentally, DS in Yr 6 is currently getting two weekly lessons through the school - one for the whole class, and one for a small group identified as needing extra practice/support. Not sure how they’ve budgeted for it, but it’s great. So not surprised you’re cross at them offering your DD nothing, OP.

Agree with you here. Maybe those judging should be putting there own upbringing under the microscope! Why havent they been taught any manners aye? There's no excuse there, thats free for all of us surely 😉

brunettemic · 19/06/2023 12:53

Both my kids can swim as we’ve taken them to lessons but from what I can gather the school lessons they’ve done are useless, even though they’re at the same place with the same swim teachers. Honestly it’s not down to the school to teach them to swim.

Snugglemonkey · 19/06/2023 12:54

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 19/06/2023 12:36

It is up to the school if it’s on the curriculum.

the fact schools are so underfunded they can’t is a totally different issue.
the fact councils are so underfunded lessons are cost prohibitive is another issue.

I think it should be removed from the curriculum. It cannot be funded in a meaningful way. Most schools do a nod to it, which amounts to a wee trip for 6 weeks. It is nice for the children but does not provide value for money. I would rather see schools relieved of the burden and the money redeployed.

Readyplayerthr33 · 19/06/2023 12:54

The school was never going to teach your child to swim. Non-swimmers never come out of the school lessons and competent swimmers.

Why haven’t you taught your kids? This is your job as a parent, not the school’s.

Thesearmsofmine · 19/06/2023 12:55

No child is going to learn to swim in school lessons OP.

I actually feel that the national curriculum aims for swimming need changing because they’re simply unachievable for a school to do with a schools limited time and budget unless the children are all already able to swim to a decent level. I live in a disproved area and for 1 adult and 1 child to go to the very basic council pool for an hour it’s over £10 a time so many kids simply never go swimming.

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 19/06/2023 12:56

SlashBeef · 19/06/2023 12:38

How have you let your child get to year 6 without knowing how to swim at all?! That's actually dangerous.

dangerous is a stretch unless the op is actively putting her non swimmer in danger.

accidents do and can happen. I am a non swimming adult, I just don’t put myself in places that may have a risk. That doesn’t mean I couldn’t be caught out, but it’s not dangerous day to day.

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 19/06/2023 12:56

Thesearmsofmine · 19/06/2023 12:55

No child is going to learn to swim in school lessons OP.

I actually feel that the national curriculum aims for swimming need changing because they’re simply unachievable for a school to do with a schools limited time and budget unless the children are all already able to swim to a decent level. I live in a disproved area and for 1 adult and 1 child to go to the very basic council pool for an hour it’s over £10 a time so many kids simply never go swimming.

Mine did. That seems unusual from the comments here. But they did

RedToothBrush · 19/06/2023 12:58

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 19/06/2023 12:33

You’ve a pool walking distance Shock

And yes. We are bloody lucky to have that. The next nearest pool is a good 7miles away - its not accessible if you can't drive. It serves a community of at least 20000 - 30000 people. And it can't currently met the demand as I say.

I believe there are seven pools in our council area in total to serve 200,000 people. Four are in council ownership - the council pools serve 62 primary schools. (Thats NOT including the five primaries in my particular area which are served by this separate private pool). Of those two remaining pools one isn't even a 25m pool - it only does swimming for very young children. There was another pool but that closed down a couple of years ago when the health club it was in, went pop.

There very much is a lack of swimming pools locally. I ended up going to baby swimming out of town because SwimBabies couldn't get sufficient pool time in the district - they were lobbying the council on this because there is such a shortage of pools locally (this was 5 years ago BEFORE the loss of one of the pools).

This isn't untypical. Its a particularly bad council compared to neighbouring councils BUT after looking into how it compares across England its not unusual.

(I had so much trouble getting DS lessons, I took a fair amount of time looking into this).

Thesearmsofmine · 19/06/2023 12:58

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 19/06/2023 12:56

Mine did. That seems unusual from the comments here. But they did

Very unusual, definitely an exception rather than the rule from my experience but I’m glad to read that it did work for your dc.

Guavafish1 · 19/06/2023 12:58

School don't care. Don't blame the teachers.

All these rubbish academics run by private companies... recieve £10k per child.

They will cut corners to make profit.

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VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 19/06/2023 13:01

RedToothBrush · 19/06/2023 12:58

And yes. We are bloody lucky to have that. The next nearest pool is a good 7miles away - its not accessible if you can't drive. It serves a community of at least 20000 - 30000 people. And it can't currently met the demand as I say.

I believe there are seven pools in our council area in total to serve 200,000 people. Four are in council ownership - the council pools serve 62 primary schools. (Thats NOT including the five primaries in my particular area which are served by this separate private pool). Of those two remaining pools one isn't even a 25m pool - it only does swimming for very young children. There was another pool but that closed down a couple of years ago when the health club it was in, went pop.

There very much is a lack of swimming pools locally. I ended up going to baby swimming out of town because SwimBabies couldn't get sufficient pool time in the district - they were lobbying the council on this because there is such a shortage of pools locally (this was 5 years ago BEFORE the loss of one of the pools).

This isn't untypical. Its a particularly bad council compared to neighbouring councils BUT after looking into how it compares across England its not unusual.

(I had so much trouble getting DS lessons, I took a fair amount of time looking into this).

Protect that pool with all your might!

as a side note my children’s school used to have a couple of parent volunteers that would walk with the children if they were doing a walking trip. Really helped with behaviour and safety as our roads are terrible.

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All sound expensive and like your children were incredibly lucky to experience that

RedToothBrush · 19/06/2023 13:04

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 19/06/2023 13:01

Protect that pool with all your might!

as a side note my children’s school used to have a couple of parent volunteers that would walk with the children if they were doing a walking trip. Really helped with behaviour and safety as our roads are terrible.

I AM that volunteer!

Quveas · 19/06/2023 13:04

So I am expected to pay for someone else’s kids to learn to swim with my very hard earned taxes amidst a cost of living crisis....

But you are fine expecting me to pay for your kids to learn to swim with my very hard earned taxes amidst a cost of living crisis???

Actually, I agree with you - swimming is a basic and important skill that ought to be taught (although I do wonder why you didn't teach your children before now anyway - at their age they should already be able to swim). But I get so pissed off with people who think that because they paid taxes they should get whatever it is they want, and get it now. Paying taxes is not a clarion call - and those taxes pay for lots of things that we also want. I mean, here is me being expected to pay for your kids swimming lessons, their education, their healthcare, etc etc etc. ....

Nevermind31 · 19/06/2023 13:04

unless the school has a pool on-site it must be very difficult. Apart from the funding (which in a lot of schools would also need to include a coach) it is also a lot of time out of the classroom (travel/ changing), when a lot of other things also need to be squeezed in.
and in order to learn how to swim it must be more than half a term.
But as a parent o would also not expect school to teach my child how to swim - both have been having lessons since they were babies.
but… we can afford to pay for that, as well as going to the pool regularly - others might not.

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 19/06/2023 13:05

All those saying it’s parents responsibility, a life skill etc.

what about the children of the “can’t be arsed parent”. Not bad enough for social services, not bad enough for anything much to happen. Schools do fill so much of the gaps of things like sex education, personal hygiene, cooking etc. they shouldnt have to. But they absolutely do serve a huge purpose in getting those children to be functioning adults. The school swimming lessons benefit them too

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 19/06/2023 13:07

RedToothBrush · 19/06/2023 13:04

I AM that volunteer!

Ah! Ok. Some of them can be maniacs with a bit of freedom can’t they

MomFromSE · 19/06/2023 13:08

Swimming is part of the national curriculum. They have to offer it, particularly to non-swimmers. I'd write a letter to the link governor for the curriculum.

justasking111 · 19/06/2023 13:09

I live in a fishing area. My FIL told me 40 years ago when he was 70 plus that the fisherman many couldn't swim because at sea it would be too far to swim anyway. A fisherman friend he knew went down when the anchor he threw out caught his boot and he was dragged down to meet Davy Jones.

justasking111 · 19/06/2023 13:10

I don't by the way think @Platypuslover will return. But hopefully will read some positive balanced posts

northlife34 · 19/06/2023 13:11

I'm unsure as to why this is the school's fault? My kids started learning to swim at 3 years old, because it's literally a skill that makes the difference between life or death? It's not school's responsibility in my opinion. Sorry if that seems harsh!

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