Putting DS into nursery?

[Fuzzyduck31]

I am a SAHM with one DD (3) who goes to nursery 5 days a week and one DS (nearly 2) who stays at home with me. We go to three different playgroups per week and the other days do errands or go for a visit to the farm, park etc. I recently gave up my job as EYFS lead after teaching for over 12 years and have a wide knowledge of successful theory and pedagogy in the early years so I feel like I give DS a well rounded experience even when we are just at home together.
However I do understand how important it is for him to develop his resilience and social skills etc in a setting away from me. I was firstly tempted to enrol him at a private nursery for two mornings a week but when speaking to other childminders or parents they really turned me off the idea. So then I considered sending him to a childminder for two mornings but is that in anyway useful for the reasons mentioned above. I suppose I just am tousling with the mum guilt of leaving him for no real reason except to socialise him (and maybe get my hair cut on occasion!)
WWYD???

If you can afford it, send him to nursery just so you get some time to yourself. Presumably the same nursery as your older child?

I'm confused, you're seemingly fine with sending your 3 year old to nursery 5 days a week so why would sending your 2 year old for a couple of mornings be a problem?

Question, why is DD in nursery full time but DS at home with you? Surely like PP if you are happy to send DD to nursery full time you’d be happy to send DS

She goes to a school nursery (turning 4) so goes there Monday to Friday similar to a school.

Agreed. It's not like you're not using nursery at all so I don't understand the reluctance?

Although I'm surprised your daughter goes 5 days a week if you're a sahm. Are these full days or just mornings, it seems odd to have her there so frequently now you're at home.

Honestly, I think you'll regret it.

You only have another year with youngest full time snd you'll never have full time togetherness again. Ever.

They start at 3 because that's when they need it. You are doing yourself a disservice if you think nursery or childminder will do a better job than you. They won't.

If you want youngest to go to childcare to give you some childfree time, that's a different question. If you frame it as youngest going into childcare for something "more" than you give - rubbish and a million times unnecessary.

That makes a bit more sense to me. When does DS turn 3? Would you consider waiting until he can attend the school nursery assuming it’s the one attached to the school you’re considering?

They are quite different children. DD loves going to nursery as a nearly 4 year old, almost wants to go at the weekends too! DS is different personality wise - more attached, also I think it’s a big difference between a nearly 2 and nearly 4 yo - things like potty training, ability to communicate, understanding etc.
Thank you so much for all your replies, definitely food for thought.

Is there a preschool near you that takes from 2? That is what SAHMs in your position do near us. It’s good for them to be somewhere and you to have a break - I work FT but need space for myself which is ultimately easier to fit in and negotiate as I’m FT and have FT childcare.