A MIL one!

[Summering23]

I quite possibly may be being entirely pre-menstrually and unreasonable here. In general I find my MIL a bit much. Constantly hassling me for things she should go to my husband for etc.
Last week was our wedding anniversary and I saw that MIL has posted to congratulate us on her Facebook wall. Not on mine or DH’s wall, nor tagging us. She’s had various congratulatory messages from people neither of us have ever heard of. She’s then thanked each one of them on our behalf. AIBU to find this really fucking weird and attention seeking?

DH just rolled his eyes when he saw it but it really irritated me. We didn’t really acknowledge the anniversary or celebrate it ourselves and it feels a bit intrusive for her to be using it for attention from people that are complete randoms to us.

Why must women blame their periods when they're annoyed or upset about something?

What will you blame when you stop having them, the weather?

Just own your feelings even if they are unreasonable.

Are you splitting up? Is that the problem?

MIL problem

so MIL and I have always (I thought) had a good relationship and got on well. We have one DD (9) and MIL doesn’t make much effort with her which has bothered me and DH over the years as there are 2 other grandchildren who she dotes on and it’s sometimes difficult to deal with . Dh and his mother get on ok but she nags him and has a habit of calling him for no reason and talking about herself and her other darling grandchildren and this gets on his nerves to the extent that he doesn’t answer the phone to her every time she calls..

A few months ago MIL called DH a few times over the course of a day, he was having a bad day and didn’t pick up to her. That evening, we were about to sit down to a family evening when I get a barrage of texts from MIL about DH not picking up. I explained he had been busy etc and then received a response from MIL basically saying he should pick up because they are “good to us” and saying “after all they have done for us DH won’t pick up”. A few years back MIL lent us £1000 when we were on our arses and that’s literally all she’s ever done. Anyway, this got my back up because apart from one occasion they’ve done nothing for us ! I’ve had to give up my job as we had no help with childcare and couldn’t afford to pay and I watch every day as MIL looks after the other grandchildren so their mother can go to work. I told MIL as much and there was then a very nasty exchange in which she told me I was wicked amongst other things but the main thing she said that I can’t get out of my head is that DH is better off without me, that one day he will see sense and leave me and she will be waiting for that day! This seems a really mean and calculating thing to say.

I know bad things get said in an argument but to wish divorce on us feels really final and I can’t bring myself to have anything to do with her. She did apologise about 6 weeks after the exchange but during that time she told my sister in law that she meant every word. Am I being unreasonable by not burying the hatchet ?

Apologies, old post!!