Sleepovers

[ladyinthecampervan]

As you might tell from time time of this post, I’m currently being kept awake by a teenage sleepover.
There’s four of them altogether, early teens and they’ve supposedly been in bed since midnight.
We had about 90 mins of ups & downs (loo, trying to sneak extra snacks from the kitchen, etc) and after about the third stern reminder we’re now at the loud whispering in bed stage.

Am I being a mean mum for having told them to stay in bed & try to sleep? I don’t mind too much if they keep themselves awake but I don’t see why I should have to suffer too!
But I’m prepared to be told I’m being the fun police and need to lighten up.

I should probably add that this isn’t a birthday sleepover. Just as hoc having friends over

YABU - it’s a sleepover. You should expect them to be giddy.

YANBU - it’s 2am! It’s definitely ok to have told them off.

At 2am it's either they be quiet or they get separated. They're taking the piss.

Hi @ladyinthecampervan if they don't come over that often i think i'd let them make noise.
I want to be a cool mum (to a limit).
Hope you get some sleep xx

Put on some thunderstorm sounds to drown out their chatter and go to sleep. You need to unclench. This is what teens do at sleepovers.

That'll teach you, letting tweenagers have a sleepover. No matter what promises your daughter makes about future sleepovers, don't believe her. (I'm presuming, sexist I know, but in my experience boys aren't that bothered).

Usually dds sleepovers are with more than one (we usually have 4 of them.

Tbh, I expect nothing in the way of sleep from them and I shove em all on the living room floors with a couple of blow up mattresses. That way they have access to a loo and the kitchen and the tv and I spend a lovely early night undisturbed upstairs watching whatever I want as does other dd and dh. It's not that common - only every few months so I let it go.

If there is only one of them they sleep in dds room but tend to be much more sensible and keep themselves to themselves.

I was forever having sleepovers when a teenagers and you rarely sleep for excitement, chatting and just fun to break the rules that you should be asleep - we always set up camp downstairs though, we were quiet (I think) my moms a light sleeper and never said we kept her up or came to tell us off to be quiet.

Maybe next time have them all set up bedding and camp out in the living room (or the room furthest from yours) so they can having fun and be teenagers and you can sleep, neither annoying the other. When they're tired all day you can laugh it off and find it amusing instead of being tired and grumpy yourself.

Im a grown adult now (late 30s), I had sleepovers almost every weekend and some weekdays - we'd all take it in turns over each other's houses during the holidays. Almost always made to sleep downstairs but as kids this was amazing! 😂

Thanks for your opinions everyone. Nice to see I’m not the only mum who needs her sleep.
But, I’ll take on board the views that I need to go with the flow next time.
TBH, they picked a bad week for it - it been really hectic and I was soooo tired. Also, our house layout means that my room is between the kitchen & the bathroom which doesn’t help.
Maybe camping in the garden for the next one? Them or me, I don’t mind 😂

YABU. You should have made them sleep downstairs or in a tent. And get yourself some earplugs!

I was about to suggest a tent in the garden.

Actually in this weather you probably don't need a tent.

Yep, blow up beds/sofas/mattresses in the lounge and let them get on with it. TBF, I’m a bit of a slack mum and was happy to host sleep overs all the time, so the novelty wore off and now they’re usually asleep by about midnight.

I hope you got them all up at 8am!?!?!

If they kept me awake late, then I'd get them up early, and start vacuuming whilst singing badly at the top of my voice.

I suffer with insomnia so am absolutely dreading any of my kids wanting a sleep over. I think I'll go with camping in the garden or they can sleep in the shed!

Two were up at 6:30 of their own accord. The others were up by 9.

Needless to say it’s been quiet afternoon 😂

I mean idk it’s a bit unreasonable but if their keeping you up then not really because you have kindly invited them and there being a bit rude if you’ve told them to stop messing about at 2am ! I wouldn’t want my kids and their friends waking the whole house up at that time because it effects the whole household I don’t think it’s that unreasonable