Feeling very alone right now and no one to talk to

[Lonelyandupset]

Sorry for posting in AIBU, I don't have anyone to talk to right now and don't know where else to post this.

I have had a terrible night this evening, with someone who I thought was a friend starting a confrontation on a night out. I'm a mother of 2,both have autism, my life is pretty stressful and I've been looking forward to going out and having a bit of a break, and the night has been ruined and I've been left to feel gas lighted.

The hardest part of this is that I am single and alone, with no one to talk to and I just wish I had someone who cared that would say something to make me feel better. I know how pathetic that sounds and it makes me feel really low. I don't know why I'm posting, maybe just to feel a connection with someone that isn't hating me right now.

Sorry to hear you feel crap, what did your friend have a go at you about?

Ah, what happened Lonely?

Will a new day possibly help smooth things over between you both?

I'm sorry op you had a bad night and that you are feeling so alone. Do you think it would help to tell us more details of what happened? Sometimes I really just want to rant and rave and just be heard and I thi nk anonymous forums can be quite good for that. (Though maybe aibu is not the best place if you are feeling raw...)

If it helps I don't hate you. I'm sure most people don't. Huge hugs!!

Doesn't sound pathetic. The world is a difficult place right now and none of us have as much support as we need, you probably less than most.

I'm so sorry lovely. Can you put something nice on to watch? Take your mind off things?

Just rant on here! We will listen without judgement. Big hugs 🤗

Reaching out is a good thing-plenty of ears and lots of hugs on MN. Sorry to hear that the evening didn't go to plan, that's a shame when you have been looking forward to it. Life can be very tough sometimes, try and relax, perhaps listen to some mindfulness music and plan something to look forward to tomorrow even if it's just a walk in the park and an ice cream. Sending a hug 💐

Bless you! Sending lots of support and hugs. X

What happened? The friend sounds horrible. I am a lone parent too so I know how lonely it can feel sometimes.

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this tonight. It's not pathetic in the slightest.
I've noticed an erosion of empathy (before covid btw!) & much more self centeredness in people. It's awful when you just need a bit of support, or a good night out to forget your stresses.
Rant it out here if it'll help. You're not alone

Oh yes. I had my feelings hurt just yesterday by a thoughtless comment from a friend. Everybody is so much more aggressive these days.

Thank you for all your messages. It's heart warming to get kind responses. I think I just needed to hear I'm not a bad person. I don't really want to go into details as to what happened, I've been confronted over something that wasn't my fault and it's horrible to have all the blame put on me. I feel like I have enough going on in my life without having a toxic, one sided friendship to add to the mix. On the other hand, I absolutely hate to upset people or to feel like I've done anything to make someone dislike me for just being me. It's difficult and disappointing to know I've got to this age and am being treated similarly to as though I were still in the school playground!

Sorry you are feeling so down. That "friend" sounds awful.
The confrontational "friend" sounds mean and will not have covered herself in glory. You will not be the only person to have experienced this from her.
You are doing your best to care for your two children.

Think of this evening, hard though it is, as a lesson learned.

Life is too short to spend time with people who make you feel crap if you can avoid it.

Life will go on, resolve to find some new activities and experiences that are manageable and that will take the emphasis away from this "Friend" and their behaviour.

In the meantime, yes you need to let your feelings out and be sad about it but also, if you feel you are dwelling on it too much, you could try distracting yourself with a nice film, or podcast if you can't sleep for thinking about it. The "Friend" is the one who should be feeling bad about this. Not you.

Oh, mate. People can be so disappointing, can’t they?

You’ve probably got the brunt of this because your ‘mate’ can sense you’ll take it, because you’re nice and don’t like upsetting people.

Hold onto the ‘I have enough going on in my life without a toxic, one-sided friendship to add to the mix.’ That’s the authentic response, the response that will serve you.

In fact, I’d cut and paste it out of here into a message, and send it to her.

You are not a bad person!
Sending you Internet hugs!

I hope you feel better in the morning. A new day, and early morning coffee in the sunshine might chase it all away.

Your friend is wrong. You sound thoughtful & considerate, and I suspect your friend was offloading her stress. Take no notice. Hopefully she'll apologise when she's had time to think. Don't be in too much of a rush to contact her. Sleep well x

Thank you.

Definitely a life lesson to avoid toxic people. I've had a strange feeling about this person since we first met. I didn't think things would turn out like this though. I guess I'm just feeling pretty sorry for myself right now! And uncomfortable about how to deal with the situation going forward.

I need to get a grip really and come tomorrow morning I'll be focusing again on looking after the kids and going to work next week and everything that goes with that.

Sucks not to have the support from someone to make you feel better and build you back up. So I appreciate you all taking the time to help in that regard.

I typed in feeling like there's no one to talk to and found this thread. I sympathise with you and do hope you are feeling loved and better than when you posted this x much love, strength and grace