To let 5yo in my bed most nights

[weirdo123]

5yo DS is ND with delayed speech. I also have younger boy of 3, NT.

Bedtime we put both together each night but guaranteed older one who's ND will come into my new around 2/3am. Some nights he won't settle at all and calls for me so eventually ends up falling asleep in our bed

Younger one seems content in own bed

I don't mind my big boy coming in, neither does hubby, but is it weird, should it stop and if so when

DS 5 comes into our bed most nights. Any time between 4-7. Sometimes I wake up when he gets in but most of the time, I wake up and he's there. Usually with his fingers in my hair, snuggled up against my back. I love it.

DH isn't a fan, he said he'd like to wake up and be able to hug me without DS being in the middle. Usually the cat is in the crook of my legs so I get everyone wanting me!

As long as it is OK just enjoy it if is not bothering you. I never slept better than when my last of 4 came into the bed, he didn't thrash about, did not snore, he got some comfort from it, and so did I and he definitely wasn't still doing it when he was older ( I think around 6, and not every night, now and again). His older sister (by 15 months) also did it a bit when younger, but was a dreadful to sleep with, commanding the whole bed starfish style, slapping her arms about in the night, sitting up and talking, kicking the covers off. Snoring. The two oldest rarely did it. Whenever we went on holiday as a family of six, we used to draw straws as to who was going to be sleeping in a bed with her as you always knew you were going to be awoken at some random point by the slapping or the snoring.

My 7 year old twins still sneak in to my bed during the night, my now 12 yo DS did likewise (not anymore!) I think sleep is more important than worrying which bed they're in.

It’s healthy, normal and good parenting. Forcing a child into a room alone, scared and unable to sleep, when so young would be cruel. You’re doing the right thing.

My NT DS sleeps with his Dad every night, it doesn't matter where your child sleeps as long as they sleep and you are happy with the arrangement.

Absolutely fine. My youngest did the same until she was about 8!! Didn't disturb us, and it was rather sweet finding a little mouse in my bed when I woke up. She's 11 now and never comes in. I can't really remember when it stopped; it must have been gradual. I suppose there must have been a last time.