Potential bullying at work?

[leftoutbywork]

NC for this as potentially outing. Colleagues briefly discussed going out for a get together, and I said I would go as long as I was free - I just needed to confirm my availability. Nothing more was said about it so I assumed it wasn’t going ahead. It’s later transpired that they have made the plans amongst themselves and everyone else was invited except for me. AIBU to be hurt by this?

Sorry - what you would class something as doesn't make it so. If it was a formally organised workplace outing, or an activity arranged to take place during working hours, then it is a part of work, even if voluntary attendance is in place. But simply because everyone works in a specific place does not make it a workplace event.

They don't really sound like the nicest bunch, but the bottom line here is that you go to work to work, not to make friends. If they do not wish to socialise with you outside work, then you can't insist they do (assuming that it was a deliberate action on thier part).

It does sound like they excluded you which isn’t very nice. Not sure what to say really. Have you had a fallout with any of them? Why would they exclude you?

Same thing happened to me regarding a work friends 40th, was waiting to find out the date and then saw on Facebook people posting about the fab night .