I've really upset my friend and I don't know how to sort it

[KarmaIsMyBF]

Hi all,

Just looking for a bit of advice my friend thinks she may be pregnant but is having a bit of trouble with the pregnancy tests like having a faint positive then nothing and then another faint positive and said she was worried about a chemical pregnancy.

I've been supportive as I always try to be and I said that when I had a chemical pregnancy I got a faint positive and then bled a few days later and it was like a heavy period so told her try not to worry too much and leave it a few days and hopefully those tests will get stronger.

She then questioned why I never told her about the chemical pregnancy and I didn't think and just replied saying I didn't think it was a big deal so didn't tell anyone, only me and DH knew.

She went mad saying I don't think her possible chemical pregnant is a big deal etc when that's not really the case as I appreciate for every woman it's different and a loss is a loss whatever the situation but for me personally I didn't feel like it was a big deal but I appreciate why she's upset and hope that that's not the case for her but she's kind of ignoring me now.

I'm gonna leave it a couple of days before messaging her but I really didn't mean to be insensitive.

I don't really know what to do or say now though.

You don’t owe her an apology because you’ve said nothing wrong at all, in the slightest. You were referring to YOUR experience.

As you are an adult and what sounds like a nice person, you have immediately clarified your statement when she’s jumped on it - and included an apology that perhaps you weren’t clear.

from that point on you don’t owe anything else. You haven’t upset her, she has taken something you’ve said about your own experience and made it about her.

she owes you an apology.

You haven't done anthing wrong here. If anything she owes you an apology. I certainly would not be doing a repeat apology to her. Give her space and let her come to you.

You've done nothing wrong at all. She is behaving badly. I'd wait and see what happens.

Hi everyone.

Thank you so much for you advice. Sadly it was unfortunately a chemical and she's very upset so I'm gonna nip round tomorrow with some of her favourite treats and some self care bits.

I know I didn't do anything wrong as such but it's such a stressful time so I understand why she was upset but all I can do is be there for her.

Thanks again everyone for taking the time to reply.