How to get the motivation to do things whilst severely depressed?

[fedupmumof2]

I’m really down (depressed /anxious).

just for context and not to drip feed - Had my initial talking therapies appointment an on list for therapy. I don’t have high hopes as didn’t help in the past. Not a good relationship with DH. Got 2 young kids. No family or friends here.

my question is how can I get the motivation to even get off the sofa? It’s a lovely day here, DH disappeared with the car as we argued in the morning. In the morning I was positive, I took paddling pool out and kids were playing in the garden but then they started fighting over a toy and screaming and chaos so I took them inside and now they watching tv. I’m just sat here and can’t even get up. Feel so low and depressed. I’m getting them snacks n stuff but sitting back down. DH has just returned as I’m typing this and no word to the kids or me but gone upstairs to sulk. I’m so depressed I can’t handle life right now. DD has a birthday party next week but I’ve done nothing apart from book venue.

One thing at a time and pick the easiest. Lists and you'll get satisfaction and feel better every time something is ticked off. Hope you feel better soon. I can feel overwhelmed and it's horrible, it just immobilises me.

Yep, break down the day into small tasks. You got the pool out for your kids, that’s made them happy, squabble over the toy aside.

And why does your husband get to flounce off out the house for hours then go upstairs to huff and puff. Can’t he watch the kids whilst you go out to get stuff for the party?

one step at a time, one foot in front of the other.

Thank you @Pinkjacket22 and @thefirstmrsrochester

yes I’m making a list on my phone right now what to do. I’ve put clean kitchen, tidy up living room, order party bags and fillets for now.

I don't know if this helps Op but Amazon have entire sets of party bag fillers and they sell them in different amounts (8 kids, 16 etc). Failing that, in my 10 years of having parties a simple cupcake/store-bought traybake slice and some Haribo does the trick.

When I get in a slump I mainline caffeine, good luck 👍

@RicherThanYews thank you x