A thread about many cancelled/withdrawn threads!

[NatureNurture85]

i literally know IANBU.

I have only asked for one thread to be withdrawn and picked up by the DM.

But many many threads with really very sound advice by posters, helping the OP get withdrawn and often we don’t know why! Example today the thread about the GPs going on holiday. We all said look you’ve just had a baby. Time will fly, they’ll be back soon and let them go on hols (her DP called and told the GPs they shouldn’t go on holiday).

Rightly or wrongly this is a public forum so you have to be mindful of what you post/ask. But it’s also where others come for advice, looking at old threads and then to find they’ve been withdrawn!!

I don’t think IABU but MN are by not giving proper explanations. It will drive down engagement and quality of postings/posters and you’re just getting deleted when you’ve taken time/thought to offer an opinion/help someone out.

I find it reassuring that MN withdraws/cancels threads. It means that the site is being properly managed. I hate SM that allows trolls to pour their bile all over everything and get away with it. Likewise I love it when MN step in if things get too heated.

I too have been disappointed when I follow a juicy thread just to see it suddenly disappear but there are usually plenty of others.

The number of threads deleted at OP’s request is still very low, compared to how many are posted every day.

I think MN have to play on the side of cautious and delete a thread if there’s even an indication from the OP that it’s causing upset.

It totally does get abused though by people whose egos get pricked when they don’t get the response they want.

I find it bizarre how easily threads are deleted for “privacy concerns” now.

I had one where someone outed me on the thread and in actual life.

MN refused to delete it until I’d posted on the thread explaining why I wanted it deleted and let that stand for at least an hour because otherwise it wasn’t fair on the people who’d invested time replying.

It took over four hours to get it deleted in the end. Yet often threads go within 10 minutes

Oh an the replies on my thread were totally in my favour - it wasn’t even like I was pissed of people weren’t agreeing with me!

This!! I think may claim this when they are expecting support and it goes the other way

We do get some ridiculous threads where ops still fight and often start swearing / get nasty at the majority of responses not agreeing with them

There was a ridiculous one recently about someone thinking an older person was in the wrong taking a seat on a bus while she was fannying around with her pram and her kid had already sat down. She got really offensive

Likewise, some OPs post and are clearly already upset about something and then a few individuals will be absolutely awful to them (I suspect to provoke an argument). I applaud the ops for withdrawing threads in those circumstances and therefore removing the opportunity for an argument. Mumsnet used to be supportive and understanding especially to new mums. I don't know if it's reflective of society, but it's definitely got meaner here.

@mewkins I think people are getting more and more entitled and selfish nowadays

Don't care about those around them, it's sad

@mewkins i genuinely feel we have a real mental health crisis on our hands, a number of reasons. I don’t want to spell out what’s obvious (e.g. Brexit, Ukraine and Covid) but also the cultural harm of having a Conservative inward looking and corrupt government has meant society has been harmed at a collective level.

I come from a community of e poor where we kind of support each other (lots of cousins, aunties, friends) events that bring us together. Without this I think I’d feel isolated. As women we need a community and this is supposed to be it, as humans we need some where to turn to. That’s why I think it’s better to delete harmful comments rather than entire thread. I believe MN has a big role to play in the support of women and mothers. As the world has moved online we’ve lost that community locally.

I can see why someone who has literally just been through a traumatic premature birth may feel rather fragile and want to delete a whole thread and forget she'd ever mentioned it. If I were in a vulnerable place I would do the same rather than think about keyboard warriors calling me entitled etc. The person saying a that baby born at 33 weeks was in fact not premature so the OP should just get on with it was, I fear, a new low.

Many of the threads on here are either started by trolls to ramp up arguments or posted by someone who posts an opening post and never returns.

To be honest I cannot believe how long some of them last as they are just obviously wind ups.

If the majority disagrees with the OP, the thread will be deleted because "too identifying".

Sometimes if one or 2 posts disagree with the OP.

Another one on my Watching list gone - OP urgently wants this removed........ 😕